This sex... issue...

Nixy

Elimi-nistrator
Staff member
Not if I can help it...

back on Kittie's topic...

Painful...kinda...uncomfortable...DEFINATELY. Like many others have said, 2 forms of contraceptive is the way to go. Pills and condoms are my personal choices.

As for the people telling you to wait...they regret their first time...etc...you do what YOU wanna do. My first time was with a guy who turned out to be an ass but AT THE TIME he was my entire world. I regret nothing, everything about your past makes you who you are today and I love myself today.

Anyway, back on your topic again...being scared is OK, I was scared too. As long as you trust the guy then being scared about the experience is normal...if HE contributes to your fear then that may be something you should take into consideration when making your choice :)
 

Leslie

Communistrator
Staff member
gonna move this to Love and Lifestyles...just cuz.

not ready to reply here yet...a bit troubled by it...

and I am dumbfounded to find that I really cannot remember the did it hurt thing. :mope:
 

Raven

Annoying SOB
The incredible nomadic thread...

Nix, I wasnt telling her to wait, I was advising her to think everything through first
 

BeardofPants

New Member
It doesn't really hurt per se... It kinda feels like a bad period cramp - which is basically what it is. The important thing to do is make sure you take it slow, and you RELAX. The first two times I had sex, it hurt because the vaginal muscles were all tensed up. But after that it was all good. And like tonks said, it takes a great deal of experimentation before you figure out how to orgasm regularly. The best way to deal with this is - without being crude - to make sure you practice manually stimulating yourself, so you can find out how your body works, and can in turn show your partner. Oh, and don't be surprised if you bleed a little after the first time. It's perfectly normal.
 

Oz

New Member
three things kittie .......Condom.....KY......... Cannabis (not that I'm advocating using drugs, but if yer partial to a puff......y'know).

EDIT: and if yer do happen to be one of the ones with a hymen like old boot leather.......make sure the condom isn't damaged when yer fella is trying to break into ya ;)

Oh, and don't do it outside a bank......yer might get shot :lloyd:

Oz
Agony Uncle
 

Professur

Well-Known Member
Or of course, you could just break it yourself, and then your first sex can be lousy because he's useless in bed, instead of because you're in pain.
 

Oz

New Member
Professur said:
Or of course, you could just break it yourself, and then your first sex can be lousy because he's useless in bed, instead of because you're in pain.

I thought about that..........decided not to suggest it in my post tho'...

With a bit of luck when kittie's boyfriend gets carried away and goes for the full thrust they will be kissing......kittie will, either from pain or surprise, grit her teeth.......biting down on the boyfriends tongue.....then he can share her pain (and she won't be the only one to have a lil' unwanted blood) :swing:
 

Oz

New Member
Kittie said:
I'm terrified. And I don't know what I want...


then keep yer legs together until you are sure what yer want :)

Trust me, it'll be easier if ya do...
 
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