Deaths

Inkara1

Inkara1

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I figured it would be better to start a new thread for this instead of posting it in any of the threads that prompted it. An awful lot of our members are losing people close to them lately. Is there some sort of misalignment in the stars or something? We're only a week into May and it's happened three times this month. I'm troubled by the sudden spike and am wondering what's going on here.

It puts me into even more of a quandary because I never have an easy time to deal with death threads. I don't like to post unless I really feel like I can add something, but at the same time I feel like if I don't express condolences then I'm not doing my duty as a compassionate human being.
 
MrBishop

MrBishop

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Inkara1 said:
I figured it would be better to start a new thread for this instead of posting it in any of the threads that prompted it. An awful lot of our members are losing people close to them lately. Is there some sort of misalignment in the stars or something? We're only a week into May and it's happened three times this month. I'm troubled by the sudden spike and am wondering what's going on here.

It puts me into even more of a quandary because I never have an easy time to deal with death threads. I don't like to post unless I really feel like I can add something, but at the same time I feel like if I don't express condolences then I'm not doing my duty as a compassionate human being.
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Your duty as a compassionate human being? Consider it this way....you're not doing it for the person who died, becuase you didn't know them...yolu're doing it for the person who posted it, or IRL the person who told you about the death of a loved one. It's not plattitude, because if someone is willing to tell you of a close death, they know you or trust you enough to know that you'll feel some compassion for them. Often, people are so depressed that a simple "My condolences" is suiteable. Your prescence alone often is enough...for me, people who gush all over me when a loved one has died, simply make me feel more depressed, because it's a constant reminder of whom I've lost.

Hope this helps Inkara
 
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Oz

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When Death Comes by Mary Oliver


When death comes
like the hungry bear in autumn;
when death comes and takes all the bright coins from his purse

to buy me, and snaps the purse shut;
when death comes
like the measles-pox;

when death comes
like an iceberg between the shoulder blades,

I want to step through the door full of curiosity, wondering:
what is it going to be like, that cottage of darkness?

And therefore I look upon everything
as a brotherhood and a sisterhood,
and I look upon time as no more than an idea,
and I consider eternity as another possibility,

and I think of each life as a flower, as common
as a field daisy, and as singular,

and each name a comfortable music in the mouth
tending as all music does, toward silence,

and each body a lion of courage, and something
precious to the earth.

When it's over, I want to say: all my life
I was a bride married to amazement.
I was the bridegroom, taking the world into my arms.

When it is over, I don't want to wonder
if I have made of my life something particular, and real.
I don't want to find myself sighing and frightened,
or full of argument.

I don't want to end up simply having visited this world.
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We share compassion because loved ones that have gone....can't :)
 
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