i just feel like some of the things that are chivalrous to do indicate some weakness on my part. am i too delicate to pull out my own chair? too poor to buy my own dinner or movie ticket?
i do open doors for people, i do buy people dinner, i will let a friend do something before i do, but not because they are female/male/whatever -- just because they are a fellow human being and it's a nice thing to do. if a guy would not do these same things for another guy, i would question that. i am all for niceties and acts of kindness to others, but i don't think that the fact that i am female should mean that i get extra stuff like that.
i went to see a movie with a friend once, and we were waiting in line to buy our tickets. (we were each buying our own). but when it came to be his turn, he said "ladies first!" and let me go first. and i got upset. i would not have a problem with him letting me go first if he said, "you can go first, if you want to".
i just think there's too much socially-accepted sexism in our society. be nice to someone because they're a person, not because of their sex.