do gay people bother you??

Discussion in 'Love & Lifestyles' started by i-heart-music, Aug 27, 2008.

  1. i-heart-music

    i-heart-music New Member

    Ok so heres the deal. I met this guy and we were getting on really well until i said that 3 of my best friends were gay.

    He then turned all weird and said he needed time to think...he realised that once he met my friends. I asked him what the problem was and he said it was nothing to do with me that he thinks im lovely and kind but he needs time to think and his problems are his own..

    Are my friends the problem?? How much time does he need? If i text him what do I say??

    Help I really really really like him and trust me if you saw my track record you'd realsie I never feel this way!!I'm 20, he's 21 and we only know each other a week

    Advice would be great and opinions especially from guys
  2. Professur

    Professur Well-Known Member

    Do gay people bother me? No more than anyone else, and usually for the same reasons. That a person loves another person .. Well Gawd bless and best wishes. But when you want the world to change and 'accommodate' you ... well then I've got a problem. But that's no different from welfare cases, subsidized daycare, breast implants and sex changes covered under the public health plan... the list goes on and on.
  3. Gonz

    Gonz molṑn labé Staff Member

    Happy people are okay to be around. So are some homosexuals. The others just suck.... :rimshot:

  4. Frodo

    Frodo Member

    You have to understand that to a heterosexual male, seeing two men make out or hit on you is repulsive. Probably natures way of making sure we go out and propagate the species. That being said, if your friends aren't making out in front of him or hitting on him, I'd say get over it.

    I believe that homosexuality is a condition at birth and not their fault. It is not something to celebrate, but not something to blame them for either. The idea that it is a lifestyle choice seems ludacris. I, as a heterosexual, would not want to give up my wife if the tables were turned and I am pretty sure that no matter how many hairy asses you parade in front of me, I am not going to suddenly say, "Hmmm, I would sure like to tap that."
  5. tonksy

    tonksy New Member

    Depends on how annoying they are - just like with anyone else.
    I don't have a set of criteria for my friendship. I like you or I don't and it has nothing to do with whom you chose to sleep with - if it ain't me it, ain't my business.
  6. spike

    spike New Member

  7. Inkara1

    Inkara1 Well-Known Member

    If they don't hit on me, I'm generally fine with them.
  8. A.B.Normal

    A.B.Normal New Member

    Well if your friends are male then he may have problems with what his friends may think of him hanging around them.If your friends are female he may have apprehension about you hanging around them.I personally have no issues with either gay male or female,but I'm not the guy you are dating.
  9. Nixy

    Nixy Elimi-nistrator Staff Member

    I think that if you have friends who are gay and the guy you're dating has issues with that then it really is something he has to deal with. I guess if he really really really has an issue with your gay friends then you have a choice to make. I never choose the one who makes me choose. If a bf doesn't want to hang around with some of my friends that's fine, he doesn't have to...but if he doesn't even want me hanging around with them when he's not there (assuming it's not because they're bad for me in some way) then he's out the door. I'd say if this guy is even considering not dating you because you have friends who are gay then he deserves the door.
  10. paul_valaru

    paul_valaru 100% Pure Canadian Beef

    See, I don't get that.

    I have been hit on by gay men, and as long as they stop when I let them know I am not gay, I am fine.

    do gay people bother me? it goes on a person to person basis, them being gay doesn't bother me.
  11. Professur

    Professur Well-Known Member

    I'm not a real big fan of getting hit on my strangers of either gender. And since one of the first topics of discussion for me with anyone is my family .. it's pretty damn clear which side of the fence I sit on.

    But then, I'm nowhere near as 'metro' as you, Paul. You clean up well. I look like a short lumber jack come outta the woods for someone's funeral.
  12. spike

    spike New Member

    Seems about right. Not really much different than a girl hitting on me that I don't find attractive.
  13. chcr

    chcr Too cute for words

    Lots of things about various people piss me off. Sexual preference isn't generally one of them.
  14. MrBishop

    MrBishop Well-Known Member

    Unless I plan on sleeping with someone, their sexual preferences don't matter to me at all.
  15. PT

    PT Off 'Motherfuckin' Topic Elite

    I'm with you there, I take it as a compliment, politely inform them that my wife probably wouldn't be very happy about me dating at this time, and move on. It's not like they throw you down and try to assrape you, is it?
  16. 2minkey

    2minkey bootlicker

    not true for many of us, dude.

    i've been hit on by boys more than a couple times. i didn't really care. and of course they weren't laying it on very thick because - surprise - most of them figure out pretty quickly that i'm not into fellas, without it even being verbalized.

    i've seen boys kissing plenty of times. i didn't really care. i'm neither aroused nor repulsed. sometimes i do giggle at it when they are out of earshot. especially if they are "bears." i mean, golly, guys that look like that kissing anyone is hilarious.
  17. MrBishop

    MrBishop Well-Known Member

    ...and the thing is, in het porn, the viewers (mostly het men) have no issues with seeing a nude male in action including closeups. :shrug:
  18. Gato_Solo

    Gato_Solo Out-freaking-standing OTC member

    Short answer? No. Important answer? Only if they become annoying, demanding, and/or whiney. You all know my feelings on this, so I won't go any further. ;)
  19. GrandCaravanSE

    GrandCaravanSE Active Member

    We have a word for your new friend it's called "homofobic"
  20. Professur

    Professur Well-Known Member

    And I`ve a pair for you. Knee Jerk. There's a lot of ground between -phobe and -phile.

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