75renegade
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In the age of information over-saturation, true and pure communication is a rare find in deed and its most effective form can be swept by the wayside, while much shallower, less primal forms rise to the surface and block the light of those wishing to receive it.
Our culture and and our peers have made such sport of sending messages that most of what we receive is discarded as "spam".
Thus the need for all of the message control and spam filtration in our day-to-day lives and relationships.
I submit for your consideration, that some of the most meaningful communication I have ever offered or received has been non-verbal.
It's a skill I continue to hone with great enthusiasm as I experience the powerful positive results of connection with my fellow sojourners.
To observe the body language of another and to learn to read the powerful messages it sends has helped me to improve and deepen the way in which I relate to others.
When I notice that someone appears pressed and disengaged from their surroundings, no matter how pressing my own matters of concern seem to me, before I approach or begin to speak, I like to contemplate a less intrusive approach to the one I would otherwise address with my question or topic of interest.
The result is far more satisfying as the would-be "addressed", goes on their merry or not so merry way, undisturbed by my personal agenda and I go on mine resolved to work out a different solution for myself which promotes further personal growth for me.
In spite of how my fancy for words may appear to the reader here, my preference is to let you tell me about yourself without the need for all such insufficient and misrepresentable verbiage.
How can words accurately represent the deep thoughts and desires of the human spirit?
Although I do believe there is a time for us to employ the clumbsiness of words, I believe that with maturity, we would do much better to consider the ways of other cultures and rely on far more primal means for sending and receiving messages to and from one another.
A tender touch...a gentle understanding look in the eyes coupled with an accurate assessment of and provision for the needs of the one with whom we are in relationship, is far more effective and goes much deeper towards positive relational growth, in moments when our friend or partner needs to be acknowledged for having a "tough day at work".
The same is true for moments when anger is appropriate.
To merely descend to the undermining depths of fits of rage or angry outbursts (which can wound the ones we love) is only delaying the potential growth and maturity that waits for those who choose to exercise restraint and self control.
I say, save physical aggression for the weight bench or the wood pile, in order to instead sow seeds of positive productivity that may later reap personal benefits for the angry offended one.
Withhold verbal abuse and exchange it for silence while focusing that energy on finding a more effective solution that will bring healing and promote an opportunity for growth, for you and for your friend or partner.
One author wrote, "In the presence of many words is folly" and "Be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger...".
Words of wisdom for those who choose to receive and exercise them.
Relationships with each other is the only real treasure I find worth living for in this world of meaningless chatter...
So, what is your preferred means of communicational exchange and why?
Our culture and and our peers have made such sport of sending messages that most of what we receive is discarded as "spam".
Thus the need for all of the message control and spam filtration in our day-to-day lives and relationships.
I submit for your consideration, that some of the most meaningful communication I have ever offered or received has been non-verbal.
It's a skill I continue to hone with great enthusiasm as I experience the powerful positive results of connection with my fellow sojourners.
To observe the body language of another and to learn to read the powerful messages it sends has helped me to improve and deepen the way in which I relate to others.
When I notice that someone appears pressed and disengaged from their surroundings, no matter how pressing my own matters of concern seem to me, before I approach or begin to speak, I like to contemplate a less intrusive approach to the one I would otherwise address with my question or topic of interest.
The result is far more satisfying as the would-be "addressed", goes on their merry or not so merry way, undisturbed by my personal agenda and I go on mine resolved to work out a different solution for myself which promotes further personal growth for me.
In spite of how my fancy for words may appear to the reader here, my preference is to let you tell me about yourself without the need for all such insufficient and misrepresentable verbiage.
How can words accurately represent the deep thoughts and desires of the human spirit?
Although I do believe there is a time for us to employ the clumbsiness of words, I believe that with maturity, we would do much better to consider the ways of other cultures and rely on far more primal means for sending and receiving messages to and from one another.
A tender touch...a gentle understanding look in the eyes coupled with an accurate assessment of and provision for the needs of the one with whom we are in relationship, is far more effective and goes much deeper towards positive relational growth, in moments when our friend or partner needs to be acknowledged for having a "tough day at work".
The same is true for moments when anger is appropriate.
To merely descend to the undermining depths of fits of rage or angry outbursts (which can wound the ones we love) is only delaying the potential growth and maturity that waits for those who choose to exercise restraint and self control.
I say, save physical aggression for the weight bench or the wood pile, in order to instead sow seeds of positive productivity that may later reap personal benefits for the angry offended one.
Withhold verbal abuse and exchange it for silence while focusing that energy on finding a more effective solution that will bring healing and promote an opportunity for growth, for you and for your friend or partner.
One author wrote, "In the presence of many words is folly" and "Be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger...".
Words of wisdom for those who choose to receive and exercise them.
Relationships with each other is the only real treasure I find worth living for in this world of meaningless chatter...
So, what is your preferred means of communicational exchange and why?
*its succinct
