Just the one, he's enough.
One parent staying home isn't one parent rearing the child. It's one more roadblock to the "I can do it all" mentality. Obviously, it does't mean a child will grow-up in a meaningful way. It is, by & large, one hell of a first step in that direction though. Two parents, married & heterosexual are the norm in which produces the most well rounded, thoughtful & insightful next-generation. Look at all stats involved. The odds of part time parenting or single parent rearing increses the odds of deviant, violent & anti-social behavior, mutli-fold. It doesn't say a "typical" family produces a better child. It does say the odds increase greatly for that to happen.
that I have to laugh at & feel sorry for it's author. that is the delusional thinking that has taken our children from pains in the ass to murderers. Nothing done part time is done to it's fullest extent. It's not possible to have a meaningful, deep relationship, of any kind, on a part-time basis. Look back to your own youth. Which statement would be truest; A)I wish my parents had worked more or B)I'm glad I had a full time at home parent. Even if B) isn't true, wouldn't that be the preference?
At 18. When he becomes a legal "adult" & we are no longer responsible for his actions. The rope in which binds a child to the parents gets tugged, pulled, stretched & distorted but it is still a tie that binds. He is not ready to accept behaviors of an adult. Nor will he be at 14 or even 16. As he gets closer to that magical age, he gets more freedoms. He also gets more responsibilites. He is taught to be an adult. There are restrictions placed on that freedom, by us & by the law. Trust is earned by actions, not by age. It is earned, not freely given. With earning that trust he learns to be a responsible adult. When the trust is damaged, he learns consequences for his actions. In that, he is already responssible for his actions.
I am not putting down both parents working outside the home. There are clearly times when it is unavoidable. I am attacking the notion that is the forced norm. Move to a smaller house. Turn off the cable. Trade the Lexus for a used Toyota. Don't put in the pool. Put the AC at 79 instead of 74. There are hundreds of ways to lower costs. Your first & foremost job is to create socially responsible, well rounded children, so the rest of us don't suffer the wrath of said child in the future.
One income is possible, feasable & healthy.
Perspective: In the event of global catastrophe, there's be no job. Upward mobility would be eliminated. What would happen then? You'd care for your family.
One parent staying home isn't one parent rearing the child. It's one more roadblock to the "I can do it all" mentality. Obviously, it does't mean a child will grow-up in a meaningful way. It is, by & large, one hell of a first step in that direction though. Two parents, married & heterosexual are the norm in which produces the most well rounded, thoughtful & insightful next-generation. Look at all stats involved. The odds of part time parenting or single parent rearing increses the odds of deviant, violent & anti-social behavior, mutli-fold. It doesn't say a "typical" family produces a better child. It does say the odds increase greatly for that to happen.
that I have to laugh at & feel sorry for it's author. that is the delusional thinking that has taken our children from pains in the ass to murderers. Nothing done part time is done to it's fullest extent. It's not possible to have a meaningful, deep relationship, of any kind, on a part-time basis. Look back to your own youth. Which statement would be truest; A)I wish my parents had worked more or B)I'm glad I had a full time at home parent. Even if B) isn't true, wouldn't that be the preference?
At 18. When he becomes a legal "adult" & we are no longer responsible for his actions. The rope in which binds a child to the parents gets tugged, pulled, stretched & distorted but it is still a tie that binds. He is not ready to accept behaviors of an adult. Nor will he be at 14 or even 16. As he gets closer to that magical age, he gets more freedoms. He also gets more responsibilites. He is taught to be an adult. There are restrictions placed on that freedom, by us & by the law. Trust is earned by actions, not by age. It is earned, not freely given. With earning that trust he learns to be a responsible adult. When the trust is damaged, he learns consequences for his actions. In that, he is already responssible for his actions.
I am not putting down both parents working outside the home. There are clearly times when it is unavoidable. I am attacking the notion that is the forced norm. Move to a smaller house. Turn off the cable. Trade the Lexus for a used Toyota. Don't put in the pool. Put the AC at 79 instead of 74. There are hundreds of ways to lower costs. Your first & foremost job is to create socially responsible, well rounded children, so the rest of us don't suffer the wrath of said child in the future.
One income is possible, feasable & healthy.
Perspective: In the event of global catastrophe, there's be no job. Upward mobility would be eliminated. What would happen then? You'd care for your family.
