Luis G said:You know what Justin?, date her, it's time to return the favour, screw her head, make her crawl, push her to the limit, and when you think it has been enough then push her farther, if she complains about it...drop her.
Be a bastard, be an asshole, revenge is bad but i'll be damn IT IS SOOO SWEET.
here's a quick little story. my mom remarried when i was 9. for about 10 years my mom and stepdad had a rocky marriage. finally my mom falls for this guy at her work. makes her feel special and all that jazz. it goes on for awhile like that. finally she comes clean with the whole thing. they almost split, but manage to stay together. they've been married about 18 years now and things are great. much, much better than ever before. i am not saying that this is like your situation justin, but here is what i am saying, PEOPLE CAN CHANGE! people can also say they have changed stay the same. i have to sound sexist, but if this was a man cheating on a woman, i would be less willing to advize trying again. i think women usually cheat when they feel like their relationship is missing something (that's not a knock on you, justin, maybe she was just young and didnt understand what she wanted, etc.) whereas lots of men just cheat because they are dogs, always have been, always will be. most women want to be faithful, where as lots of men just want to land as much tail as possible. i know these are generalizations, but they exist for a valid reason. guys dont take offense, i am not saying all of us are like that, i have never cheated, personally, i am talking averages here.Leslie said:since Justin ain't saying, I will, so he gets the appropriate advice...this was not just a cheat...it was longer term than that.
I agree so much with this. Religion often keeps you in line by fear. And when it comes to human mind fear is not a good inhibition factor. Our mind always find a way to 'dodge' fear an another emotions and satisfy our wishes. That said if you think you can keep your reason, go for a 'test'.Shadowfax said:true, people can change, but not within a year, and even more sorry to say that religion is one of the most weak excuses to say you've changed.
greenfreak said:I tend to be unforgiving when it comes to cheating, lying or doing drugs in regards to relationships. I told every one of my bf's that too so they would know in advance that if they did any of the three, I'd be gone.
I've been cheated on twice (that I know of). Both of them were tied to other members of my family so I occasionally still hear about them, over 10 years later. One is divorced and alone(because she found out about his affairs) and the other is in a loveless marraige and frequently fools around with other women but his wife puts up with it. Interestingly enough, he cheated on me with her and she married him thinking she could change his cheatin ways.
The other thing is, (and you can give me all the flak you want for this one) I see cheaters as having a morally decreased personality. I don't want someone who has cheated in the past because again, just from my own experience, they usually have other things lacking in their personality which I don't want. It takes an amount of work and compromise to make a long term relationship work over the years, may as well not start off behind the game.