husband/wife venting session
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kuulani
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okay, i soooooo think i do more than my husband in the child-rearing department. why is it that i am supposed to instinctively know how to raise my children?
he doesn't bathe them, because he "doesn't know how." i have to call the doctor when they're sick. i have to take them to the ER at night when "he's tired and he has work tomorrow." i usually have to do the morning/nightly brush teeth routine because he forgets.
the list can go on
he doesn't bathe them, because he "doesn't know how." i have to call the doctor when they're sick. i have to take them to the ER at night when "he's tired and he has work tomorrow." i usually have to do the morning/nightly brush teeth routine because he forgets.
the list can go on
I need : stabhimintheeyewithafork :
when I was in it, I always felt that what you're seeing, Ku'u, is half laziness/habit and half they really really get overwhelmed by the whole thing and just don't. Then there's the man's side, that they don't feel like the woman 'lets' them do it their way, so they just don't try anymore. I can see I did that in some ways...especially in the beginning. As the kidlets get older though...it gets way irritating and imposing for the 'doer'. One that always pissed me off was when we were both working, why was it always ALWAYS my job to make sure that we had a sitter? Why did it never dawn on him even ONCE?
when I was in it, I always felt that what you're seeing, Ku'u, is half laziness/habit and half they really really get overwhelmed by the whole thing and just don't. Then there's the man's side, that they don't feel like the woman 'lets' them do it their way, so they just don't try anymore. I can see I did that in some ways...especially in the beginning. As the kidlets get older though...it gets way irritating and imposing for the 'doer'. One that always pissed me off was when we were both working, why was it always ALWAYS my job to make sure that we had a sitter? Why did it never dawn on him even ONCE?
IDLEchild
Well-Known Member
I Kid, I am not married.....so I can not relate to the oldies here.
But as for your triflin husband....restrain from sex.....now I defend my gender when needed but it works....it really works....
barren the bastard and the dishes will wash themselves and all will be happy in the kingdom again.
worse comes to worse you could threaten him or blackmail him....complete and utter emotional breakdown of his ego works great too.
But as for your triflin husband....restrain from sex.....now I defend my gender when needed but it works....it really works....
barren the bastard and the dishes will wash themselves and all will be happy in the kingdom again.
worse comes to worse you could threaten him or blackmail him....complete and utter emotional breakdown of his ego works great too.
Well, here is a mans perspective on the whole thing. First of all, Les got most of it right. We are told that the way we folded the shirts was the wrong way, the way we folded the socks together was the wrong way. Well, I lived alone, I folded my shirts like that and my socks like that and I always managed to get dressed every day. Cooking, my wife stays out of my way. She knows I'm a better cook and she knows not to question that aspect.
Now, the biggie. Kids. Men are generally harder on the kids and the women are generally more nurturing. When we get told we're being hardasses it scares us. Well, that and you all have breastesses.
Now, the biggie. Kids. Men are generally harder on the kids and the women are generally more nurturing. When we get told we're being hardasses it scares us. Well, that and you all have breastesses.
That's another thing. You wimmens always let that shit bother you WAY TOO FUCKING MUCH!Leslie said:you know what else?
I'm sitting here amazed at the rage that the me always calling the babysitter thought brought out. I guess I have bottled up jusssssssst a little bit too much.
IDLEchild
Well-Known Member
PuterTutor said:
Pfffttt...macho pig....like you would know. You trying squirting a pineapple through your urethra and then having the no good loser leave you with every mundane task to do because "women are more nurturing"
men...I swear sometimes....If you weren't scuh a hot beefcake PT, i'd be inclined to put you on ignore.
chcr
Too cute for words
1. Why am I in debt for her going back to college to get her bachelor's degree when she had no intention of looking for another, better paying job?
2. Why, when both of us actually know how, am I the only one who has to program a vcr?
3. Why, when she wants to try a new recipe, do I have to eat it too?
It's just possible that she has one or two about me, but I certainly don't know what they could be.
2. Why, when both of us actually know how, am I the only one who has to program a vcr?
3. Why, when she wants to try a new recipe, do I have to eat it too?
It's just possible that she has one or two about me, but I certainly don't know what they could be.
tonksy said:
Les said:
Not to say that it's not something to get pissed about, it's just that the majority of women tend to vent on that one thing, whether it be trash, laundry, day care, dishes, whatever. There is just that one thing that just pisses you off. The really funny part is that most of the time, we have no clue that that is what you are pissed about. Would help if you just let us know. Oh, and you probably will have to tell us more than once for it to sink in.
HomeLAN
New Member
The reason my wife does most of the child stuff is that I hold a full-time job outside the home, and she doesn't. That was a choice we both made, together.
As for housework, she does more than I do, but she sure as hell doesn't do it all. Most of the cooking and kitchen belongs to me, I do my part of the laundry, and I choke up for maid service every two weeks for the heavy shit.
My only big issue is the attitude sometimes at "that time of the month", and you just can't avoid that.
As for housework, she does more than I do, but she sure as hell doesn't do it all. Most of the cooking and kitchen belongs to me, I do my part of the laundry, and I choke up for maid service every two weeks for the heavy shit.
My only big issue is the attitude sometimes at "that time of the month", and you just can't avoid that.
Gato_Solo
Out-freaking-standing OTC member
Leslie said:you know what else?
I'm sitting here amazed at the rage that the me always calling the babysitter thought brought out. I guess I have bottled up jusssssssst a little bit too much.
I hate to be the one to say this, but, seeing how your ex was a louse, did you really want him to pick the baby sitter?
tonksy
New Member
we share the housework but rob actually does more of it than i...guess it's cuz i work or am a lazy slob or something.
i do the laundry. i fold the laundry. i just seem to be unable to put the clothes up.
rob does the dishes mainly, cooking is about an even split.
he takes out the trash and attended to der fuzzbutt's litterbox.
i can not complain.
i do the laundry. i fold the laundry. i just seem to be unable to put the clothes up.
rob does the dishes mainly, cooking is about an even split.
he takes out the trash and attended to der fuzzbutt's litterbox.
i can not complain.
