well, as far as what his family thinks...his stepmom and father understand what I'd doing and why, and for now seem to be helping us both equally, though he is getting shit from them, they're not going to desert him. He hasn't told his mommy yet.
My mom is pissed, I hadn't told her till last week, to protect him for some idiotic reason and to keep it all simple and 'happy', so she's stunned as well.
He just left, he was here since yesterday afternoon, it was ok I guess...but stressful trying to be nice and civil for all those hours, I'm hoping he finds an apt so he can take the kids somewhere else for his visits soon
He seems to be upset, not quite knowing what to do...he was grumpy one minute, as if this was all my fault, then remorseful the next, then sweet the next...he even actually bought me flowers this morning for the first time in forever.
I did get him to sign an agreement giving me sole custody and promising to pay $900 a month in support for now...so that's a good thing. He knows if he fucks me around on this it could be so much more, so I think this is reasonable for both of us.
So...it's over, things are moving along, and I know now I'm gonna be ok.