Soon to be Ex is having an affair!

Spirit

Spirit

Kissy Goddess
Well, I sat in front of the computer to come on here... pull up ICQ and low and behold, hubby's yahoo! msgr was still running. So, naturally, I was curious and decided to poke around. Apparently all his chats have been saved in some folder.

He's having a hot ~n~ heavy with some other gal!!! :eek: Now, he and I have talked separation for 3 yrs, and I recently told him I can't carry on like this anymore. So I can atleast give him that. And really - I am not bothered by what they have said, how intimate they have been or anything. What pisses me off is he's lied to her about me. About what our past relationship was like and so on. He says I never wear sexy lingerie!!!!!! I have so much of that stuff it's retarded! He says I never liked oral! I can suck the chrome of the bumber of a '57 Chevy for Christ's sake! (I know, I know, "how lady-like'... well piss on that right now). He says he hasn't had sex in over a year... shit.. we've had threesomes for the past few weekends with a close friend of mine. No sex... bull phreakin' shit.

He can screw all of phreakin' North America for all I care, but why does he have to diss me like he does??? I am the only one who supports this damn family... he does shit.. and here I am being nice not telling him to leave because I don't want him living in a shitty little place cuz I don't want the kids to see that... I get up at 5:45 am... get home at 6:00 pm, make dinner, bath kids get them to bed... sometimes karate... or whatever is on the go... he has no phucking right to talk about me like that.

Aw ta hell with it. I'm gonna get stoned.
 
No matter what is said, it won't be the right thing, so I'll try-sorry. :shrug:
 
As another person with testicles, I'm sorry too.

I wish I could explain to you the workings of the mind of men, unfortanately, I can't. We do and say some of the stupidest things from time to time, and really have no reason for doing it other than self-gratification.
 
Ah man... Guys can be so cruel. :( Really sorry to hear about your troubles Spirit... For what its worth... :hug: ;)
 
Spirit, what ya need to do is find yourself a geek. All we think about is computers and sex. :D

Dont hate me for this, but do like you say. Leave him and be with your kids. Kids are the important thing. Those guys don't know the rights and the wrongs yet. They won't learn anything staying in a family like this. Better to have a fulltime mom than a part time one. Staying is only going to make things worse. Get him outta there as fast as ya can.
 
Well.. thanks y'all. Thing is, I am no saint myself. But I DON'T lie about him or diss him or anything. I don't lead people on to believe anything that I am not willing to go through with.. Oh well.

I am not going to say anything to him. He can have his little fantasy as long as the kisd don't suffer from it. Well, kinda they do cuz he doesn't work... he chats. No job hunting...chatting... hmmm....
 
I'm sorry to hear that eh said those things Spirit.

Most guys are just plain stupid and wouldn't know common sense if it hit them in the nuts though

:hug:
 
Nobody is perfect. Since I'm nobody, I'm perfect.....

Well, I can dream can't I? Point is sweetie, nobody is perfect. We all have our own little problems, our own little pet peves, our own little habits and all the rest of those things that annoy others.

Fact is though, he's doing squat to help out. Your a better person than that. Besides that, there are plenty of fishies in the sea. :) Heck, I know a couple guys on this here board would DIE to meet ya. :)
 
Well before you leave him for good, , cut off his balls!! :mad: It's the least you can do for the b*st*rd!!

:hug: :)
 
Spirit said:
He says I never wear sexy lingerie!!!!!! I have so much of that stuff it's retarded! He says I never liked oral! I can suck the chrome of the bumber of a '57 Chevy for Christ's sake! (I know, I know, "how lady-like'... well piss on that right now). He says he hasn't had sex in over a year... shit.. we've had threesomes for the past few weekends with a close friend of mine. No sex... bull phreakin' shit.
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Whoo I loved every word in that quote... You rock gal! :headbang:
CompTech said:
Heck, I know a couple guys on this here board would DIE to meet ya. :)
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Is it needed to say more? I think you and your kids deserve more than that angel, but everyone knows where the shoes hurt. It's up to you. Anyway, remeber we love you :hug:
 
shit.. we've had threesomes for the past few weekends with a close friend of mine
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Pretty much a sign that neither of you is serious about a real relationship anyway.

It's novel of you to want to continue to help those kids but i say fuck that relationship. It's bad for all of you including if not especially those kids.
 
at least you can take comfort in knowing that the "girl" he is talking to online is probaly a 50 year old man pretending to be a girl.
 
Wow. You guys say the nicest things sometimes.. :(

And then there's whoreable... are you legal? Are these fantasies legal?

heheh

so ya, umm... sorry... my cat's sittin' here clawing at my cleavage!!!!!!

oh ya... so, thanks again.

I've been hittin' the bong a little too much tonight I thkn....blah balhs blah
 
If he contributes nothing to the household tell him to leave - you need a partner not another big kid, and you and your kids deserve better. They need a role model to look up to, not one who's sponging off their mum - maybe kicking him out will give him the impetus to get his act together - it worked with my ex. Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind
 
I don't like to be mean, but the welfare of those children far outways the necessity for niceness. Sometimes the truth is ugly and most affective without makup.
 
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