Soon to be Ex is having an affair!

PuterTutor said:
Shadowfax said:
omg. cut it out already...this is not some fictional situation or something...imagine YOUR boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife was having an affair, you posted about it on a forum, and people started to fantasize on what would be the most cruel way to kill him or her...

tell me: would YOU like to read that?

Apparently, I'm one sick son of a bitch, cause if my wife was having an affair, YEP, I'd be looking for creative ways to off her.
Agreed! You go into a marriage, swearing to be faithful, you trust someone with all your heart, and they break it with out caring.

I don't see who could ever sympathise with someone that does that to someone else!
 
Shadowfax said:
omg. cut it out already...this is not some fictional situation or something...imagine YOUR boyfriend/girlfriend or husband/wife was having an affair, you posted about it on a forum, and people started to fantasize on what would be the most cruel way to kill him or her...

tell me: would YOU like to read that?

i most certainly wouldn't....have a bit more respect to a person's feelings, this is NOT fun to read.

*agrees* This is a real incident happening to someone we know. Let's not turn this thread into a joke, there's thousands of other threads on this board where we can do that in.
 
*hugs Spirit* PM me if you need to talk .. believe me, I know what you're going through ...
 
to me in a marriage as in any romantic relationship the two should talk about what they are comfortable with as being faithful can mean different things to different people. but what he did was wrong and i agree with fury that she needs to kick him out as your kids(this goes to everyone with kids that they need to respect women and that women are not sex objects).
 
Very good adivces and valid opinions here but let's remember that the final decision is Spirit's own choice. Only a person knows where begins and where ends its problems... She was just in need of venting. I read some of the posts in this thread and sometimes it seems like we are trying to tell her what to do, as if it would exist only one logic to it. Well in relationships there's never only one.
 
all decisions are ones own family and friends can only be there for support. oh and altron: dont need weapons. the armpits if used correctly can lead to a heart attack.
 
aw you guys!!!! Hey - look - it's all good.. the kiddin' around and stuff. I'm not easily provoked to annoyance or anger.

Thanks for all your words, kind, advice and joking.

I still don't know when I will take action... it's harder to do than to say.
 
Of all the childish answers to a true dilemma, I think all of them are in this thread in one form or another.

My advice?

1. Get a lawyer. A good one.
2. Save copies of his chats on disk for your lawyer.
3. Boot him out. The last thing the kids need to see is one person working on the relationship and the other doing nothing.

For those who actually care, and have actually given good advice, you may ignore my first sentence. You know who you are. ;)
 
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