FluerVanderloo
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So, I'm stuck with what to do in this situation. Mind you, I'm not a parent, but I'd like to see this situation from a parent's point of view.
My fourteen year old cousin is pregnant, and about two months along.
The background:
Her 'boyfriend', Justin, is her age, and has been having sex with Amanda since she turned fourteen in August. From what both Amanda and Justin have said, it was happening at his mother's house, and she knew about it, even going so far as to providing condoms for them. And, obviously, it didn't work this time around. Apparently he was Amanda's first, but she wasn't his. Furthermore, Justin is also a jackass in that he threatens Amanda with breaking up with her just to piss her off and get her worked up. He "aggrivates" her, as my aunt said, but wouldn't give details. When Amanda's brother tries to get Justin to stop, Amanda will yell at her brother, taking up for Justin.
Now:
The doctor said that she's too far along for a pill for abortion, and the surgery is not an option, really. They think it will permanently damage her because of her age and size (the girl is only 90 pounds). They said there's a 50% chance she will have a miscarriage. My aunt wants her to have the baby to realize the consequences for her actions, though they really can't afford the child. She is making Amanda go get a job as soon as she recovers from giving birth in order to help. Justin's mother insists that they sign a paper "giving up parental rights" so that Justin has nothing to do with the baby. Mind you, they weren't even married in the first place, so the signing over of parental rights will be laughed out of the court. Amanda's eating right, and taking vitamins, but refuses to stop wearing her tight jeans, which is pretty bad.
Today:
They just left about 15 minutes ago. This is the first time I've seen her since I heard about it. My mom tried to talk some sense into her, but she gave that typical fourteen year old smartass attitude and didn't answer, staring off into nothing, rolling her eyes. I mean, the look alone made me want to whack her. She cusses at her mother, calling her a fat bitch and the like, and calls her brother a fag whenever she gets the chance.
Wow, that was a lot. I guess what I'm trying to get out of this is an opinion, and a 'what would you do?' thing.
My fourteen year old cousin is pregnant, and about two months along.
The background:
Her 'boyfriend', Justin, is her age, and has been having sex with Amanda since she turned fourteen in August. From what both Amanda and Justin have said, it was happening at his mother's house, and she knew about it, even going so far as to providing condoms for them. And, obviously, it didn't work this time around. Apparently he was Amanda's first, but she wasn't his. Furthermore, Justin is also a jackass in that he threatens Amanda with breaking up with her just to piss her off and get her worked up. He "aggrivates" her, as my aunt said, but wouldn't give details. When Amanda's brother tries to get Justin to stop, Amanda will yell at her brother, taking up for Justin.
Now:
The doctor said that she's too far along for a pill for abortion, and the surgery is not an option, really. They think it will permanently damage her because of her age and size (the girl is only 90 pounds). They said there's a 50% chance she will have a miscarriage. My aunt wants her to have the baby to realize the consequences for her actions, though they really can't afford the child. She is making Amanda go get a job as soon as she recovers from giving birth in order to help. Justin's mother insists that they sign a paper "giving up parental rights" so that Justin has nothing to do with the baby. Mind you, they weren't even married in the first place, so the signing over of parental rights will be laughed out of the court. Amanda's eating right, and taking vitamins, but refuses to stop wearing her tight jeans, which is pretty bad.
Today:
They just left about 15 minutes ago. This is the first time I've seen her since I heard about it. My mom tried to talk some sense into her, but she gave that typical fourteen year old smartass attitude and didn't answer, staring off into nothing, rolling her eyes. I mean, the look alone made me want to whack her. She cusses at her mother, calling her a fat bitch and the like, and calls her brother a fag whenever she gets the chance.
Wow, that was a lot. I guess what I'm trying to get out of this is an opinion, and a 'what would you do?' thing.