greenfreak
New Member
At work, do you use your feminine wiles to your advantage?
What I mean is, will you flirt, stroke a male coworker's ego, or otherwise do "girly things" to get the favor of the men you work with? For whatever reason, just to have a good relationship with them, for fun, or to get something you want?
I've gone through somewhat of a transformation recently with my appearance. I'm in a tech job so I didn't wear 'corporate' kind of stuff to work but that's changed recently because my job responsibilities changed.
And I found a place that had really nice stuff in my size so I went crazy, on a $500. shopping spree. All of a sudden, I'm in style, wearing nice clothes to work, sporting open toed shoes and painted toenails, the whole deal. After a few weeks of that and feeling pretty damn good about looking good, I go and get a new hairstyle. Where my hair was long and plain and I would always pull it back in a scrunchie before, now my hair is just past my shoulders, and I wear it down all the time. I also lightened it recently so it's a light reddish orange where before it was more mousy auburn. I have to tell you, I'm looking good these days.
But here's what I noticed... A couple of my male coworkers have started paying closer attention to me. They're more courteous, going out of their way to do favors for me that they've never done before. And when they do this, I'm a little embarrassed about the attention so I actually wind up blushing or feeling a little shy about it. And they enjoy that affect they have and they do it more.
Now I'm thinking to myself, I did all of this for me. No other reason. But that's a nice byproduct to my appearance change. Have I been missing out on this all this time? Ladies, do you use what you've got to get what you want?
Men, feel free to comment on the women at your workplace who might do the same.
What I mean is, will you flirt, stroke a male coworker's ego, or otherwise do "girly things" to get the favor of the men you work with? For whatever reason, just to have a good relationship with them, for fun, or to get something you want?
I've gone through somewhat of a transformation recently with my appearance. I'm in a tech job so I didn't wear 'corporate' kind of stuff to work but that's changed recently because my job responsibilities changed.
And I found a place that had really nice stuff in my size so I went crazy, on a $500. shopping spree. All of a sudden, I'm in style, wearing nice clothes to work, sporting open toed shoes and painted toenails, the whole deal. After a few weeks of that and feeling pretty damn good about looking good, I go and get a new hairstyle. Where my hair was long and plain and I would always pull it back in a scrunchie before, now my hair is just past my shoulders, and I wear it down all the time. I also lightened it recently so it's a light reddish orange where before it was more mousy auburn. I have to tell you, I'm looking good these days.
But here's what I noticed... A couple of my male coworkers have started paying closer attention to me. They're more courteous, going out of their way to do favors for me that they've never done before. And when they do this, I'm a little embarrassed about the attention so I actually wind up blushing or feeling a little shy about it. And they enjoy that affect they have and they do it more.
Now I'm thinking to myself, I did all of this for me. No other reason. But that's a nice byproduct to my appearance change. Have I been missing out on this all this time? Ladies, do you use what you've got to get what you want?
Men, feel free to comment on the women at your workplace who might do the same.
Dayum! Now I want to be a red-headed woman....
and softer too.....
