tonksy
New Member
so today i go for my yearly female exam. this is not something that women are ethusiastic about. i get in the room (finally) and the doctor asks me "what are you here for today?" and i say "a PAP and my depo provera shot" and she says "well we need to talk about that". apparently, these new studies about long term depo use and a loss of bone density are being taken seriously by the government because medicaid will not let you stay on it longer than a year and a half. i love my depo. it's easy and not terribly permanent. but i can't stay on it.
there were a myriad of options but the only 2 viable options for me are an IUD or having my tubes tied...i've been leaning for the second.
i am posting this because i would like to discuss the idea of a divorcing, 30 year old mother of three having this procedure.
i think that my child bearing days are over. i have always wanted a son but i really don't think that is a logical choice for me....by the time i would be comfortable (emotionally and financially) having another child i will be able to do more of things that i have wanted to do for myself.
besides, i want to be able to provide for my children better than i was provided for and a third child would have it's toll in this regard...also, rob doesn't want to have any children of his own and seeing as how i am involved with rob and would like to stay so, a child would be a stressor.
so i should go ahead and do it, eh? get spayed?
maybe so...but let's fast forward a couple years. how knows what drama awaits. suppose something were to happen to my children? god forbid. would i ever want to start a new family? say rob and i are splitsville. will i
regret my decision if i ever were to enter another relationship? these are horrible thoughts but they should be considered.
both preocedures are invasive. but the tubal litigation is a one time deal. the IUD is reversable but it has to be inserted, removed, and replaced. each one is good for 5-10 years.
medicaid will cover both of these procedures for me...i just need to decide.
there were a myriad of options but the only 2 viable options for me are an IUD or having my tubes tied...i've been leaning for the second.
i am posting this because i would like to discuss the idea of a divorcing, 30 year old mother of three having this procedure.
i think that my child bearing days are over. i have always wanted a son but i really don't think that is a logical choice for me....by the time i would be comfortable (emotionally and financially) having another child i will be able to do more of things that i have wanted to do for myself.
besides, i want to be able to provide for my children better than i was provided for and a third child would have it's toll in this regard...also, rob doesn't want to have any children of his own and seeing as how i am involved with rob and would like to stay so, a child would be a stressor.
so i should go ahead and do it, eh? get spayed?
maybe so...but let's fast forward a couple years. how knows what drama awaits. suppose something were to happen to my children? god forbid. would i ever want to start a new family? say rob and i are splitsville. will i
regret my decision if i ever were to enter another relationship? these are horrible thoughts but they should be considered.
both preocedures are invasive. but the tubal litigation is a one time deal. the IUD is reversable but it has to be inserted, removed, and replaced. each one is good for 5-10 years.
medicaid will cover both of these procedures for me...i just need to decide.
