It has come to my attention.
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*feeling the need to always be the one someone's talking about*
greenfreak
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Might be, Na, but until someone says something directly to me, I'll have to assume it's not my problem. 
*wonders if I have PM's waiting for me right now*
*wonders if I have PM's waiting for me right now*
greenfreak
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I know you do Gato, and I find you bullying sometimes too so I guess we're even. You and I have already gone through this on JJR512 and as a result, I don't usually speak my mind anymore on 'Real World' issues-I've learned that it gets me nowhere and isn't worth the ensuing arguing.
Seriously though, with anyone who may be 'overly sensitive', it helps to discuss it when it happens. Without specific circumstances, it's hard to judge whether the sensitivity was warranted or not. And if it isn't warranted, it's hard to do something about it if you aren't aware of it at the time.
I think the 'sometimes' is pretty much the norm with anyone. When it becomes 'all the time', that's when it's probably an issue.
You and I have already gone through this on JJR512 and as a result, I don't usually speak my mind anymore on 'Real World' issues-I've learned that it gets me nowhere and isn't worth the ensuing arguing.Seriously though, with anyone who may be 'overly sensitive', it helps to discuss it when it happens. Without specific circumstances, it's hard to judge whether the sensitivity was warranted or not. And if it isn't warranted, it's hard to do something about it if you aren't aware of it at the time.
I think the 'sometimes' is pretty much the norm with anyone. When it becomes 'all the time', that's when it's probably an issue.
greenfreak
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Oh and the reason why I suggested discussing it privately is because you don't get as much of that defensive feeling because you know everyone else on the board is reading it.
unclehobart
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I feel like Charlie Sheen dreading finding a red card in his locker in the movie Major League.
unclehobart
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Stepping on toes and a full blown jackslap are in the eyes of the beholder.
greenfreak
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Gonz said:
That's two reasons right there that I (and other people I've talked to) don't 'debate': there's no need to step on people's toes on purpose but it's used as a tactic too often & the goal of many is not to speak their mind, but to change everyone else's opinion that doesn't conform to theirs.
I'm all for being enlightened. But I can do that without the hassle of getting involved in the debate. I'll just let you guys step on each other's toes, you seem to enjoy it more anyway.
You know, If I wanted to bring it up with the person in private, I would have done so. I brought it up here in public because I thought it was something that everyone should read, and maybe learn something from. Sorry that some of you don't agree with that, but I guess that's what makes us different.
Have a jolly evening, I'm off to have fun for the next few hours, I'll catch you all tomorrow.
Have a jolly evening, I'm off to have fun for the next few hours, I'll catch you all tomorrow.
greenfreak
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PT, I can respect that. I just don't think dealing in generalities is going to help anyone, that's all. Have fun having fun tonight!
Gonz, there's no way to cut out the part I don't like... the part in between stating my opinion and agreeing to disagree that gets me agitated. I've learned the best way to avoid it is to say nothing. Someone winds up having the same opinion I do and they argue the points anyway. So I can sit back and read without getting involved. Neutral, like Switzerland. And you know what? I'm much happier this way.
I get the poison out at work, where my angst can be well distributed among the loathesome and lazy.
Have fun having fun tonight!Gonz, there's no way to cut out the part I don't like... the part in between stating my opinion and agreeing to disagree that gets me agitated. I've learned the best way to avoid it is to say nothing. Someone winds up having the same opinion I do and they argue the points anyway. So I can sit back and read without getting involved. Neutral, like Switzerland.
And you know what? I'm much happier this way.I get the poison out at work, where my angst can be well distributed among the loathesome and lazy.
