Professur said:
Actually, it would be my total disgust at their lack of agression. It can't possibly be anyone's fault. It's either a syndrome, a disease, or society's fault. Not that the person is just plain an asshole, an idiot, or hasn't the backbone of a snail. Just admit that the person is at fault for his/her own failings. Then help them deal with that.
Question: How did so-and-so become an asshole? Can't be a mental illness, can't be upbringing, can't be friends, can't be God....so...was it destiny? They weren't born an asshole...maybe they were (it's heriditary)...nah. So ??? What did it? What flipped the switch?
Professur said:
Look, he can't stop drinking. It's not his fault. It's a disease.
Look, he can't stop smoking. It's genetic.
Look, he's a moron. It's the school's fault.
Gimme a fucking break.
You're thinking PC, not psychology or psychiatry for that matter. If this study says that someone who has a short temper is more likely to get addicted to smoking...they aren't saying "Poor him...let him smoke...it's a disease"...what they're saying is "Look...we're that much closer to understanding addiction and how it works in the brain...and one day, once we understand it enough...we can come up with something to reduce addiction to chemicals etc, and maybe cure it or reverse its effects one day"
Frankly...I like the way this research is going. Imagine finding the link between cocaine addiction and the brain..then making a pill that will make it easier to quit cocaine. How about a pill to make pain-killers non-adictive (so that poor schmos with a lower-back injury won't find themselves inadvertantly addicted to pain-killers).
BTW... a few things that you don't seem to get about psychology...first of all. The main goal is the understanding of the problem by the patient so that s/he can take ownership (admit it to themselves) and part two is then helping them deal/cope with it....exactly what you just asked for.
As for fault...that works great if everyone was living in a bubble with no-one around and no interraction with other humans....but we don't live in little bubbles. We live in families, in neighbourhoods, in countries, at work etc...surrounded by people, all day, from the day we're born to the day we die. If you think, even for one instant, that the way others treat us or treated us in the past has nothing to do with how we act or react from one day to another...then you havn't the slightest idea of what you're talking about when it comes to psychology/psychiatry/sociology etc...and should just avoid the topic entirely.
...frankly..."quack, quack, quack" ain't helping put any light on the topic and you're wasting our and your time.