Lying pervert!

[PT]

Ok, you have a cable modem right? Take the cat5 cable to bed with you. Simple but effective. Of course he'll have a replacement within a week, but that gives you a week.

If you want a keylogger Les, let me know. I've got a pretty good one that I run on my systems all the time.

 

[Gato_Solo]

I suggest you let him and Paul have a man to man talk. I think he's acting like that because of your new man. If that doesn't work, then start removing cables 'n' such.

 

[Starya]

I found out mine had been looking at porn a couple of years ago (he's soon to be 12), I had disabled the Norton parental control for a while, and he had enjoyed that fully...

So, one day as he came home from school, I was sitting at the computer and said "I would like a word with you". He went white instantly. Oy, was he embarrassed.. Anyways, I pointed out what I had discovered, and gave him my opinion on it. I informed him that he was now banned from the computer for the rest of the week (lucky for him I found out on thursday and not monday?), and asked if he'dbe looking up sites like that again. "Nooo. Never!" (I think he actually ment it in that precise moment ) I also ensured him that whatever he was up to on the computer, I would be able to find out. (He's not interested in computer-stuff beyond google(!) and web-surfing. Not yet, that is..)

Anyways, I stopped using parental control that day. And he's stayed away from those triple-x sites.

Now, if he had been lying about it, he'd be cut off completely "until further notice". I have plenty of ways to disable the computer when I'm not around.

 

[Starya]

Oh, and if I had found porn-magazines under his bed, I would certainly have given him advice on better places to hide it away. (I suspect just knowing that I knew about it would make him toss it out himself, tho')

 

[unclehobart]

Ok, you have a cable modem right? Take the cat5 cable to bed with you. Simple but effective. Of course he'll have a replacement within a week, but that gives you a week.

If you want a keylogger Les, let me know. I've got a pretty good one that I run on my systems all the time.

Thats the same thing as my suggestion to take the power cord... but she already declared it to be too 'heavy'.

 

[unclehobart]

Will a password locked down screen saver not suffice for the overnight hours?

 

[Leslie]

LOL I had read it as shut the computer down, pull the cord, and take the computer to bed

 

[Nixy]

LOL I had read it as shut the computer down, pull the cord, and take the computer to bed

me too Les! me too!!

 

[HomeLAN]

Or just yank the modem at bedtime (assuming it's external). Let's see him replace THAT.

 

[Professur]

Maybe it's just me, but I think, perhaps, everyone's over-reacting to this. Yeah he lied. He's 11 for Christ's sake. Yeah, he looked at porn. His mom's got a new boyfriend, and he's probably hearing the humping. He's 11. Is there a guy here who can say he wouldn't have defied Gawd himself for porn at that age?

Personally, I think lockdowns and punishment in this case are just gonna drive him to rebel. What you want to do is embrace him, as a young adult. Ask him what he wanted to see, why it was so important. Where he found out about it. Then go look at it together. Encourage him to stop sneaking around and lying. He's gonna go one of two ways here. And you can't guide him if you can't get him to talk.

 

[HomeLAN]

Then go look at it together.

You evil bastard. That'll put him off it for years to come.

 

[Professur]

You catch on quick....

 

[greenfreak]

Disclaimer: As a non-parent, my words should be taken with a grain of salt.

If I were Leslie, it wouldn't be the sexual curiosity that worried me. It would be the trouble you can get to surfing pron sites and the lying. You guys may have sites you go to that are free, that don't attempt to download spyware/adware/viruses, and you know when enough is enough. But can you trust an 11 year old with that? She's being a good parent by monitoring what he's doing and where he's going and not being an absentee parent that everyone here admonishes. She tried to talk to him about it and he lied, another bad sign. Yes, I think an open line of communication is key but isn't he the same boy who took her hand cream and lied about it too? The open communication may be out at this point, so monitoring is the next best thing.

With all the ways a child can find trouble online, sexual predators and such, she should be preventing him from surfing when she can't be around to know what he's doing and where he's going. Not to mention the hours of sleep that he misses that will cause issues if that's allowed to continue too.

It's not the end of the world, but at least she is in the know, so she can decide what is healthy curiosity and what it detrimental.

 

[paul_valaru]

to clarify a FEW things

he didn't go INTO the porn site, he was searching for free games online sex....and he clicked no pictures.

He has a dad to talk to him about these things, if he has questions for me, I will answer, but not my place to give him the TALK.

The getting on the computer late at night predates me showing up.

The history was searched cause he said he wasn't up online when he was caught red handed.

The computer is now secure.

 

[Professur]

to clarify a FEW things

he didn't go INTO the porn site, he was searching for free games online sex....and he clicked no pictures.

He has a dad to talk to him about these things, if he has questions for me, I will answer, but not my place to give him the TALK.

The getting on the computer late at night predates me showing up.

The history was searched cause he said he wasn't up online when he was caught red handed.

The computer is now secure.

A tad defensive, aren't we?

 

[SouthernN'Proud]

Hell, I thought this thread was about me...

Carry on.

 

[Uki Chick]

He's a boy going into puberty. Only normal for him to be curious. I agree with Prof, punishing him won't necessarily deter him from it. The fact that he was on so late is a different story.

 

[Leslie]

I think we're missing the point here. I'm not punishing him for the porn at all. I didn't even tell him that I knew about it. He's punished for sneaking on, more for the lying about it than the sneaking on. Had he copped to it, I just would have talk to him about getting a good night's sleep and worried and sent him to a sleep clinic. He's always slept restlessly, and were it not for the puter being on, it would have been Discovery Channel at 3am. Nothing new. It's the lying and sneaking entirely. I wanna know when he's on and been on, and wtf he's up to when he's on the computer, period polka dot. So I can watch his activities, see when he's looking at barnyard shit and bombmaking so I can get him into therapy, and not acquire viruses and spyware just as gf said. He's 11. He shouldn't be unsupervised on the computer IMO. And won't be if I can help it.

The pron is no surprise, I found dad's Playboy under his mattress when he was wee. And my hand cream in his room. It's ew, but waddever. I'm gettin over it. He's a boy. *shrug*

Thanks for the advice on the how to foil him and his buddies guys. I passworded both of the accounts and the screensaver, and will look up how to password the BIOS, along with what Tommy's said, and will I think start taking the modem or a cord to bed with me at night.

 

[tommyj27]

Thats the same thing as my suggestion to take the power cord... but she already declared it to be too 'heavy'.

when i was in jr. high, if i stayed home because i sick my folks would yank the power cables from the PC to ensure that i was in bed getting better and not playing games. that's why i took the initiative of keeping an extra set of power cables in my closet. I think they're still there too.

 

[HomeLAN]

Thus the modem suggestion. You might've gotten a sub eventually, but the average kid wouldn't.