BlurOfSerenity
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Winky said:you are one confused young woman
how the hell am i confused?
Winky said:you are one confused young woman
"well, then they should give it up for adoption!" NOT SO EASY.
Oddly enough, my personal experience has been the exact opposite.BeardofPants said:I also find it interesting that the most vociferous advocates against abortion tend to be male.
BeardofPants said:Very easy to be judgmental when you will never be in a situation having to make these choices for your body.
Gato_Solo said:if the man decides he cannot raise the child, he shouldn't be forced to pay Child Support.
Camelyn said:If the man cannot raise and support the child, he shouldn't be sticking his wiener into anything that doesn't belong to him. If he chooses to do so anyway, he *will* be held accountable for the consequences.
Gato_Solo said:So then, by that same token, a woman should be forced to carry a baby she doesn't want to term as a consequence of her actions as well. You can't have it both ways, Cam. That's all I was saying.
Camelyn said:She is held accountable for her actions. She is pregnant. She has an extreamly difficult choice to make, if her beliefs allow it. Either way, her life is changed forever.
Camelyn said:Life isn't always about fair. If a man has sex, and a baby is born, it is *his* child, whatever choices the woman made that brought this child into the world. Chances are she's going to be raising it alone anyway.
Camelyn said:The law says he has to provide financial support, not any other kind of support. It's not about what's *fair* to either the man or the woman, it's about what's fair to the child who didn't have a choice in the matter.
Camelyn said:In the set of circumstances you are describing, where the father should not be held accountable for supporting the child if he chooses not to, chances are that if he is hesitant about child support, it's not too likely he will be the kind of guy to stick around to help with the raising. That is his choice, a choice that any man can make.
Camelyn said:"Most" men who become fathers while in a relationship with a woman, having wanted the child in the first place, do indeed take a very active and loving role in raising that child. That is not in dispute. It is also true that most women in these kinds of relationships are not the women who may be facing some difficult choices.
I don't think the same can be said for "most" men (or boys) who had casual sex with a woman once or twice, or are too young to even drink legally.
These are completely different circumstances, and you shouldn't argue one while referencing the other.
Camelyn said:It's not about what's *fair* to either the man or the woman, it's about what's fair to the child who didn't have a choice in the matter.