Arris
New Member
Hi all, its been a while since I've had time to post here but I thought for once I had some worthwhile input 
I recently turned 28 and just recently I've started seeing an 18 year old. Now I don't really mind the age difference. She is mature for her age and we get on really well. Maybe I think too far ahead, I mean it might not even last very long and this is right at the start of the relationship. The thought that is lurking at the back of my mind is about children. I've never really worried much about having children and just thought that if I meet the right person it will probably happen eventually. What I'm worried about is that if this relation develops how I would like it to then I would have to consider when she would maybe want to have kids. My parents were fairly late in having me, I think my father was my age, but if she decides she wants to leave it until she is 30 then I'll be 40. So by the time I have a 10 year old I'll be 50. I guess I shouldn't worry about this, it shouldn't matter. I just don't want to possibly fall ill later in life and miss out on fatherhood because I was waiting for her to be ready.
As I've said I'm probably over-thinking things again but thats my way (2 years of psychology classes didn't help that either).
I don't often end up in relationships, mostly because I'm quite a reserved and shy person, but in the past I've always opened up my heart and ended up getting hurt. I've no doubt that this will happen again and again as you can't go into something half hearted as such. But I think after a bit longer I'm best discussing this with her??? Better getting these matters out of the way before being madly and deeply (and painfully depending on the outcome of the discussions) in love.
I guess part of my question is should I forget about this younger girl and try and stick to finding a partner in my age group. I've said it myself "Age doesn't matter, its how you feel about each other" or something along those lines, but I'm starting to doubt this more as I consider how the difference could matter in the future.
Probably a premature question and I think I've just spewed output straight from my brain and it probably makes as much sense as an episode of the simpsons in russian (well to me anyway)
thanks for any input on this matter...
PS: Sorry if Age Difference has already been discussed but the forum search wouldn't allow me to search for "Age" as its under the 4 character search string length limit
I recently turned 28 and just recently I've started seeing an 18 year old. Now I don't really mind the age difference. She is mature for her age and we get on really well. Maybe I think too far ahead, I mean it might not even last very long and this is right at the start of the relationship. The thought that is lurking at the back of my mind is about children. I've never really worried much about having children and just thought that if I meet the right person it will probably happen eventually. What I'm worried about is that if this relation develops how I would like it to then I would have to consider when she would maybe want to have kids. My parents were fairly late in having me, I think my father was my age, but if she decides she wants to leave it until she is 30 then I'll be 40. So by the time I have a 10 year old I'll be 50. I guess I shouldn't worry about this, it shouldn't matter. I just don't want to possibly fall ill later in life and miss out on fatherhood because I was waiting for her to be ready.
As I've said I'm probably over-thinking things again but thats my way (2 years of psychology classes didn't help that either).
I don't often end up in relationships, mostly because I'm quite a reserved and shy person, but in the past I've always opened up my heart and ended up getting hurt. I've no doubt that this will happen again and again as you can't go into something half hearted as such. But I think after a bit longer I'm best discussing this with her??? Better getting these matters out of the way before being madly and deeply (and painfully depending on the outcome of the discussions) in love.
I guess part of my question is should I forget about this younger girl and try and stick to finding a partner in my age group. I've said it myself "Age doesn't matter, its how you feel about each other" or something along those lines, but I'm starting to doubt this more as I consider how the difference could matter in the future.
Probably a premature question and I think I've just spewed output straight from my brain and it probably makes as much sense as an episode of the simpsons in russian (well to me anyway)
thanks for any input on this matter...
PS: Sorry if Age Difference has already been discussed but the forum search wouldn't allow me to search for "Age" as its under the 4 character search string length limit
Every man is looking for an 18 year old...regardless of his age.
). Its just before I posted a lot because I was always in front of a PC when I was travelling for work and it just worked out that I was in a position to frequent a lot of forums for hours on end. Now that I'm based back in my home in Scotland I've established a proper social life and past times which have stolen precious hours from my online time. I'll try to get my "attendance" record back up to scratch though and drop by OTC more often.
