Considerations

[Gonz]

If, after the fact, you had to look back & decide if you did enough or could have done more to further your cause or promote your beliefs or help somebody or whatever, which of the choices would be the worst thing you could ask yourself?

 

[ResearchMonkey]

GRRRrrrrrr

 

[MrBishop]

I always try to look at the effect I had and wether it was positive or negative...before I offer help again. Its also good to check to see if the person actually ran with the ball that you handed off to 'em, or just looked stunned after the kick in the pants.

What did I do?

 

[Gonz]

More votes, more voices

 

[Gato_Solo]

Doesn't matter what you did...what matters most is whether, or not, you did all you could. Situations come up all the times, but a situation where you know, for a fact, that you did your best are rare indeed.

 

[Gonz]

Better. C'mon, more, more, more

 

[ResearchMonkey]

Better. C'mon, more, more, more

Damn thing will only ley me vote once!

If you look back and wonder "what did I do?" you very well may have done damage, which is often worse than not doing enough?

 

[Winky]

Engaging in either thought process is
classic neurotic behavior.
I have worked hard to cease such things.

 

[ResearchMonkey]

I spend time every day reflecting on my day; what has gone right and wrong, how I could have came out with better results.

It helps me to navigate life more efficiently and with better results.

I used to try and plan how a conversation would go, yeah like it ever went like I had planned. Gave that one up.

 

[Leslie]

I stopped that...cause my world began to just revolve around guilt. Now, I just consider that I did the best I could with what I had and go on.

 

[Winky]

Oh My God what did I do what if I'd have done something else How could I have done this or that better OMG OMG OMG

My Favorite is:
Q:Why didn't you do this last week
A: Well if you have a Fricken time machine I'll be more than happy to go back to last tuesday and get that DONE!

But I have a better suggestion How about we discuss what we are going to do now?
And or:
In the future ect ect ect...

Or the one about
Statement:
You are late!
A: Perhaps you can give a bit of information that I'm either unaware of or something that would be of some use.

Alternate response:
"I'm not late as I haven't yet found a way to be in two places at once." Besides knowing that wherever you are currently is where you’re supposed to be. This will help you to avoid heart attacks ulcers and a generally sour temperament.

Kinda like not getting mad at traffic. Traffic doesn’t care if you are mad at it!

Now straighten up before I knock you half-way into the middle of next week.

 

[Gonz]

Engaging in either thought process is
classic neurotic behavior.
I have worked hard to cease such things.

I agree & follow that, for the most part. I'm of the what more could I have done clan.

Having done someting, anything, while not always the best course, is a course. I'd rather do something & be wrong than to have done too little or worse, nothing at all.

 

[ResearchMonkey]

Oh don't misinterpret me. I don’t’ live the “what if . . . “ thing.

Sometime I will discover I owe an apology or that maybe I jumped to quick to action on something. That maybe my wife made me feel good with well timed pat on the back.

Rarely will I dwell on a subject, if I do, it’s simply because it something about is bothering me bother me.

Sometimes I find that decision I made was not as good as it could have been, next time I will do better.

 

[chcr]

I'd rather do something & be wrong than to have done too little or worse, nothing at all.

Part of my philosophy of life.

 

[Winky]

I'm of the what more could I have done

OK it looks like you got what I meant.

The answer is:

Nothing!

You can't change the past only the future.


Now there is something I used to do. I'd look back and think oh Jeez if only ida... but I read a passage in a book about this. you CAN change the past because every day you ARE creating it. What you do today will create your past.

The doing the same thing and expecting a different result thing.

To be a positive person is to dwell only on the things done right. Think of the good things when thinking of the past be it yesterday or 30 years ago.

Like the Ex thing only recall how much in love you were.
The great times you had. Hell if he or she was hot looking remember them nekkid lol

 

[Gonz]

The doing the same thing and expecting a different result thing.

A sure sign of madness.


Hey, wait, does that mean...

 

[ResearchMonkey]

. . . yes, yes it does.