greenfreak
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I just realized I never posted on this subject.
I have two out of 15 ex's that I won't speak to (mostly cus they're assholes) but of all the others, we remained friends throughout. Five of them I had a very close friendships with afterwards and one is still a friend that I email regularly after about 6 years. I've been to the weddings of three of them since then too.
One I had a successful "friend but with sex added in for fun" relationship with while I was unattached to anyone else. I see nothing wrong with that if both of you want the same thing and have the same expectations. I really wanted a long term relationship (not with him-we had already done that and decided we were better off without the committment) but in the meantime, it was a good situation. So when I did find someone else to have a LTR with, we broke that off with no hard feelings. I'd still keep in touch with him but he's become very boring over the years.
I think it all depends on the person and what they are emotionally capable of. Let's face it, some people can't handle a regular relationship, much less one that has turned from a relatioship to a friendship. I do think there should be a requisite amount of time apart immediately after breaking up to shed the old feelings of romantic love and possible jealousy if the other finds someone new. And if you're really ok with it, not just trying to convince yourself that you are, it's totally doable.
I have two out of 15 ex's that I won't speak to (mostly cus they're assholes) but of all the others, we remained friends throughout. Five of them I had a very close friendships with afterwards and one is still a friend that I email regularly after about 6 years. I've been to the weddings of three of them since then too.
One I had a successful "friend but with sex added in for fun" relationship with while I was unattached to anyone else. I see nothing wrong with that if both of you want the same thing and have the same expectations. I really wanted a long term relationship (not with him-we had already done that and decided we were better off without the committment) but in the meantime, it was a good situation. So when I did find someone else to have a LTR with, we broke that off with no hard feelings. I'd still keep in touch with him but he's become very boring over the years.
I think it all depends on the person and what they are emotionally capable of. Let's face it, some people can't handle a regular relationship, much less one that has turned from a relatioship to a friendship. I do think there should be a requisite amount of time apart immediately after breaking up to shed the old feelings of romantic love and possible jealousy if the other finds someone new. And if you're really ok with it, not just trying to convince yourself that you are, it's totally doable.