Off balance Christmas giving!

tonksy

tonksy

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We have a slight problem in our house. Some people buy certain other people too many gifts and make the other person feel like a loser when they are still opening gifts and the other person is sitting idle just watching. Does this happen to you? How do you balance your gift giving with your significant other?
 
Uh, over at my family it has always been one gift per person. That's it. With exception of parents buying more than one gift for their kids.
 
tonksy said:
We have a slight problem in our house. Some people buy certain other people too many gifts and make the other person feel like a loser when they are still opening gifts and the other person is sitting idle just watching. Does this happen to you? How do you balance your gift giving with your significant other?
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I don't. Joy is also in the giving. Make your gifts have meaning, and quantity means nothing. If you get $300 of industrial drill bits, and you give $10 of a hand knit scarf ... which is the better gift?
 
tonksy said:
Depends on if you like tools or live in a cool environ. I just feel like a heel sometimes.
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Guilt over not giving enough gifts? Instead of thinking about the material, think of other things you do...every day...that make life special. It's not about the things you give. It never is. It's about the things you are. Your guilt is nothing but the manisfestation of 100 years of commercialism and the secularization of a celebration of life. :winkkiss:
 
Hit the dollarstore or pick up little things "gag" gifts if you want the to have lots of stuff to open,another option is to wrap that 3pak of socks as 6 gifts .If its not the "amount " of gifts but the fact they are finished unwrapping first ,I find present>box>duct tape>another box>more Duct tape etc.... usually slows them down. :eyemouth:
 
tonksy said:
Depends on if you like tools or live in a cool environ. I just feel like a heel sometimes.
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Then send the kids off to daddy, duct tape him to the bed, and explain it to him. Over, and over, and over, ... I'm sure he'll get the ....poinT.
 
I've already wrapped. I do need to do stocking stuffers so maybe that'll make me feel better.
To tell you the truth, the whole idea of think of the things I do on a daily basis doesn't appease me because he does so much for me on a regular basis as well. I did begin crocheting a bedspread for him and I got over halfway done (we have a king size) before coffee got spilled on it and I had to tie off to wash it...then it got cold and we just started using it as is...I should finish it.
 
tonksy said:
I did begin crocheting a bedspread for him and I got over halfway done (we have a king size) before coffee got spilled on it and I had to tie off to wash it...then it got cold and we just started using it as is...I should finish it.
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Or just put it on his side of the bed.
 
tonksy said:
I've already wrapped. I do need to do stocking stuffers so maybe that'll make me feel better.
To tell you the truth, the whole idea of think of the things I do on a daily basis doesn't appease me because he does so much for me on a regular basis as well. I did begin crocheting a bedspread for him and I got over halfway done (we have a king size) before coffee got spilled on it and I had to tie off to wash it...then it got cold and we just started using it as is...I should finish it.
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Like I said. Guilt is not the way to go. Gifts are not always material, nor are they always expensive. By tying your relationship to the amount you spend, you turn that relationship into one of prostitution, rather than love. While I'm sure he doesn't mind being your 'ho, you must not feel cheapened because you cannot do the same things for him that he does for you. It never works out that way, anyway. Give from the heart...not the wallet. Use your head, and not your bank account.
 
I don't feel cheapened, I just feel like he might think I don't love him as much as he loves me....you know what? typing that out made it seem rather silly but that's it in a nutshell. I enjoy presents, I really do...I just want him to have the same enjoyment and I know it's not about the amount spend but the thought...it just seems he thought of me more.
 
Are you kidding? Otc is the closest I've come to a diary...(but some of my older posts? yeesh!)
 
Inkara1 said:
...bah

:lloyd:
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Yeah, you're one to talk, Mr. Big numbnuts reporter. You gonna update that damn blog of yours one day, or am I gonna have to keep adding comments to that last entry of yours>?
 
Professur said:
Yeah, you're one to talk, Mr. Big numbnuts reporter. You gonna update that damn blog of yours one day, or am I gonna have to keep adding comments to that last entry of yours>?
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Maybe someday.

You missed the yeeshbah reference?
 
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