Spirit
Kissy Goddess
I have somewhat of a moral dilemma on my hands and am looking for a little input. For about a year or so, I babysat my sisters’ neighbors’ kids every day. The youngest, let’s call him… John.. was always a little… different. Can’t really explain it, but he was not dealing with a full deck. He was a nice kid, though.
So, now it’s 8 yrs later and my oldest hangs out with him, at our house, his house or my sisters’ house. About a year ago, I noticed bits of money, change, missing. I thought perhaps I was being careless at the time. But then I’d come home and my kids’ money jars would be lying on the floor with nothing but pennies left – it was a fair amount, to say the least. I then kept the kids’ money out of sight so as not to tempt the little boy who was obviously struggling with issues.
Wednesday I cleaned up my sons room and found $5 his father had given him and stuck it in his play money jar without thinking about it. When I tucked him in on Thursday night, the money was gone. I asked Joey (my youngest) if he took it with him to the park when he went out with his friend and his friends mom, he said no. So, I asked my oldest “Alex, did you borrow some money from your brother?” and he said No.
Then I remembered… earlier that day, Alex called me to tell me that he and his buddy went to the store and loaded up on goodies. I remember him telling me that it was John’s treat and me saying how I thought that was nice of him.
I said to Alex, “did you leave John unsupervised at all before you went to the store?” and he told me that John was there for about a half hour or so before saying let’s go to the store…….
ANYWAYS – John stole the money. He is no longer allowed in my home because he has a problem with stealing. I thought perhaps it would blow over, but it hasn’t and now he’s stealing paper money – not just change.
DILEMMA: Do I call his Mom and tell her? Do I just not let him come over? If I tell her, I know it’s going to be very difficult on her… but I suppose if by telling her, I am only doing it in hopes they can correct the problem now before it becomes something bigger… I don’t know…
Do I call the Mom and gently tell her her kids a thief??
So, now it’s 8 yrs later and my oldest hangs out with him, at our house, his house or my sisters’ house. About a year ago, I noticed bits of money, change, missing. I thought perhaps I was being careless at the time. But then I’d come home and my kids’ money jars would be lying on the floor with nothing but pennies left – it was a fair amount, to say the least. I then kept the kids’ money out of sight so as not to tempt the little boy who was obviously struggling with issues.
Wednesday I cleaned up my sons room and found $5 his father had given him and stuck it in his play money jar without thinking about it. When I tucked him in on Thursday night, the money was gone. I asked Joey (my youngest) if he took it with him to the park when he went out with his friend and his friends mom, he said no. So, I asked my oldest “Alex, did you borrow some money from your brother?” and he said No.
Then I remembered… earlier that day, Alex called me to tell me that he and his buddy went to the store and loaded up on goodies. I remember him telling me that it was John’s treat and me saying how I thought that was nice of him.
I said to Alex, “did you leave John unsupervised at all before you went to the store?” and he told me that John was there for about a half hour or so before saying let’s go to the store…….
ANYWAYS – John stole the money. He is no longer allowed in my home because he has a problem with stealing. I thought perhaps it would blow over, but it hasn’t and now he’s stealing paper money – not just change.
DILEMMA: Do I call his Mom and tell her? Do I just not let him come over? If I tell her, I know it’s going to be very difficult on her… but I suppose if by telling her, I am only doing it in hopes they can correct the problem now before it becomes something bigger… I don’t know…
Do I call the Mom and gently tell her her kids a thief??