We're finally going to do it.
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Wow, thanks everyone! Good tips, keep 'em coming if you've got any more!
) I realize that I probably won't be eating much of it but I've been to some weddings with downright terrible food, and I don't want that for our wedding.
Registering is going to be a BLAST. There are three major places we've thought of so far, Crate & Barrell, Williams & Sonoma and Pottery Barn. That's going to be the really fun part. The only thing is that we're going to have to keep the presents at someone else's house after the shower because we absolutely don't have the room!
About people complaining about the ceremony/reception, no worries on that. Rusty and I have been saying for years that weddings have become all about pleasing everyone except the bride and groom, and that is just not happening with us. There were some family squabbles last year about my cousin's wedding and some of my relatives showed just how selfish and nasty they can be. Although they're invited, I could care less about what they think. This wedding is not for them.
Shoes are going to be a bit of an issue. Rusty is an inch shorter than me, so I can't wear heels. I wouldn't want to anyway, you're right they're going to hurt. I plan on having a floor length dress so you won't see the shoes anyway. Perhaps a pair of green keds would be sufficient.
And I hope after six years together, that I'm sure about him.
I wish I could do the same, with a Judge on a beach. But my family would kill me!
Gonz, we have been exercising those rules since the start, moreso when we moved in together. It was something in a book I read, and it stuck with me... Never go to bed angry. We're also very physically affectionate. I think when you don't have kids it's different, you don't have to work as hard on the husband-and-wife relationship. We don't have other distractions really.
Thanks again for the congrats everyone. I've been so used to playing it down over the years, it's nice to feel other people excited for us. I'm trying to contain myself so far, waiting for my parents to give the go ahead on a dollar amount. Whatever they say, I'm going to aim a thousand lower. I don't want to have this become a burden on them.
Now I'm off to start looking at rings.
Mom is pretty cool about respecting my opinions and decisions, although I may have to keep her in line just a little bit. I'm up to the challenge! She's not the kind of person to pull the "Well I'm paying for it so you have to agree with me." thing. It also helps that over the years, my siblings have borrowed tens of thousands of dollars from them for marraiges, divorces, court struggles, new cars, etc. and I haven't. Well, until now. But they offered.Uki said:
I guess I learn something new every day. I thought you had been married for years! Wow. Well, I guess I'll be giving you advice at some point??Spot said:
When it comes to the food, Rusty and I will be the deciding factor, food is a deal breaker for us. (as evidenced by our waistlinesHomey said:
) I realize that I probably won't be eating much of it but I've been to some weddings with downright terrible food, and I don't want that for our wedding.The cake is not going to be some humongous thing, if anything it will be small but pretty. I'm going to find out if I can get orchids put on it too.SNP said:
Registering is going to be a BLAST. There are three major places we've thought of so far, Crate & Barrell, Williams & Sonoma and Pottery Barn. That's going to be the really fun part. The only thing is that we're going to have to keep the presents at someone else's house after the shower because we absolutely don't have the room!
About people complaining about the ceremony/reception, no worries on that. Rusty and I have been saying for years that weddings have become all about pleasing everyone except the bride and groom, and that is just not happening with us. There were some family squabbles last year about my cousin's wedding and some of my relatives showed just how selfish and nasty they can be. Although they're invited, I could care less about what they think. This wedding is not for them.
Shoes are going to be a bit of an issue. Rusty is an inch shorter than me, so I can't wear heels. I wouldn't want to anyway, you're right they're going to hurt. I plan on having a floor length dress so you won't see the shoes anyway. Perhaps a pair of green keds would be sufficient.
And I hope after six years together, that I'm sure about him.
Sounds like a plan chicky! I know how much you love tourists so I might pick your brain for non-touristy stuff to do. Ok, maybe a little touristy, like a helicopter ride to that mountain you told me about!Ku'u said:If you do come, I promise I won't be barging in on you at all hours of the day ... I'll leave you guys alone for a few hours, at least
as for advice, my hubby & i eloped, kind of, with only our parents & siblings present. the judge was kind enough to come out to our aunt's beach home so it was lovely! it was low-key, low-stress, & totally fun!
I wish I could do the same, with a Judge on a beach. But my family would kill me!
Thanks! I'm a simple person to begin with, so froofroo isn't my style anyway. I want to look nice and have a great time but I'm not going to sweat the small stuff.TXRaceLady said:
Not at all, actually. Both of us grew up a little bit and realized that we would be happier here, close to my family. My nieces and nephews are becoming more and more of a part of our lives, and now Rusty really understands how much I would miss them if we lived so far. You say it's only a 5 hour drive, but that's a lot when you consider I could see them in an hour anytime I want. But one of the towns we're looking at is a ferry town right on the North Shore. We could be in Connecticut in an hour, which is convenient for weekend jaunts!Unc said:
I think it will change my mindset a little, and I will refer to him as my husband instead of my boyfriend, but the other big change, the house, I think will be more of a change for us. And yes, we have discussed children for years and have no desire for any of our own. We agreed if, at some point in the next few years, we have a HUGE change of heart (not likely) then we would adopt.
Gonz, we have been exercising those rules since the start, moreso when we moved in together. It was something in a book I read, and it stuck with me... Never go to bed angry. We're also very physically affectionate. I think when you don't have kids it's different, you don't have to work as hard on the husband-and-wife relationship. We don't have other distractions really.
Thanks again for the congrats everyone. I've been so used to playing it down over the years, it's nice to feel other people excited for us. I'm trying to contain myself so far, waiting for my parents to give the go ahead on a dollar amount. Whatever they say, I'm going to aim a thousand lower. I don't want to have this become a burden on them.
Now I'm off to start looking at rings.
Trish,
Congrats to you and Rusty. This is great news. I'm happy for the both of you. As for the wedding stuff, well most has been said that i could think of. Unfortunately it all happens so fast for you that you forget how the food tasted and stuff like that. BUT just make sure you and Rusty have a good time. That is the most important thing. We were drug all over for pictures and family wanting to talk that it felt like we missed a big part of the reception. Make plans with the photographer early on where and when you want pictures taken. Otherwise your at his mercy most of the night.
Congrats to you and Rusty. This is great news. I'm happy for the both of you. As for the wedding stuff, well most has been said that i could think of. Unfortunately it all happens so fast for you that you forget how the food tasted and stuff like that. BUT just make sure you and Rusty have a good time. That is the most important thing. We were drug all over for pictures and family wanting to talk that it felt like we missed a big part of the reception. Make plans with the photographer early on where and when you want pictures taken. Otherwise your at his mercy most of the night.
greenfreak
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If we have the ceremony and the reception in the same place, I'm wondering if we really need them.
greenfreak
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My cousin registered at Target which at first I thought was a little cheesy but when I saw the other stores (Macys, etc), I realized that she did it for the people who couldn't necessarily afford the other places or who did not live close enough to the other stores. There are Targets anywhere and some of the stuff is ok. Bedding, kitchen and bath stuff.
I started looking at rings yesterday. Everything is so blah. I want something different, non-traditional. I think I might have to customize my own.
I started looking at rings yesterday. Everything is so blah. I want something different, non-traditional. I think I might have to customize my own.
greenfreak said:I started looking at rings yesterday. Everything is so blah. I want something different, non-traditional. I think I might have to customize my own.
Is that kind of job too expensive? I'm surprised it is not a common practice.
I hope is not the same as in suits. I have a custom made suit that according to the guy that made it, it would cost you a fortune in the US to get one done. Kinda odd.
Prof, Bish and you married the same day? or did you happen to marry Bish?
