What is love?

IMHO, it's time to call that one quits. Move on, there is someone out there for all of us, and I wouldn't waste my time on someone that isn't sure.

That's just my two cents, take it or leave it.
 
PuterTutor:What you're saying makes sense but what happens when the person for you is half way around the world? :crying3:
 
Are you sure? I mean Totally, Absolutely, Positively sure?

Then you move. It's only life, and you only get one shot at it.
 
I'm not moving anywhere, my mom would go NUTS! She only has me and my brother and she is still pretty messed up since my Dad's death. He might move here in a few years if/when we are absolutely positively sure.

So, you don't think it's stupid to move around the world to be with someone? I WANT him to, I just don't want him to regret it or feel in the future that I somehow ruined his life...
 
No guarantees there, I still resent the hell out of my first wife, but...

As I said, it's only life, and you only get one shot. Make it worth it while you are here. Never settle for less than you think you deserve.
 
To me, love (not family or friends love), is present when you care about somebody, as a person, as a friend, and as a woman.
 
Nixy, you were asking about love because you werent sure about your love for Brainsoft or if you should stay with him. But you're also talking about asking someone else moving across the world to be with you? You might need some time to think about this and find out what the non-relationship Nixy is like. You get into a certain mindset when you're with someone for so long-they are a part of your life and a part of all the decisions you make. To find who you are without them after two years is important. I always say there are three people in every relationship: you, them, and the both of you. It's important to be an individual and to make sure you can be happy alone and satisfied with yourself. Just my humble opinion. :)
 
This person wouldn't be moving here for probably 3 years. I am just trying to figure out what my feelings are for each of them?

Is it possible to love someone you have never met in person?
 
greenfreak said:
Nixy, you were asking about love because you werent sure about your love for Brainsoft or if you should stay with him. But you're also talking about asking someone else moving across the world to be with you? You might need some time to think about this and find out what the non-relationship Nixy is like.
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Good point. Like I told you before, nix, don't rush into anything. You're still young. Don't be afraid to be alone for awhile. Don't waste your time with Brainsoft. Let him go, he's not worth holding on to if he says he wants to go out and compare.
 
I think it's definately possible to be in 'lust' or infatuated with someone you've never met. Since you've been with Brainsoft for so long, I don't think you've had much time to really love someone else. Especially so soon after your breakup with him (have you broken up officially yet?). I think you love the idea of being in love (with someone who will reciprocate), but give it time. Loving someone from afar and loving someone in front of you is *extremely* different. I learned that lesson twice--the first time it didn't work (in fact it was horrible) and the second time I found the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. :)
 
we have not broken up yet. This guy that is far away is everything I have wanted for ALONG time, everything I have dreamed about in a man for like forever.
 
I have to agree with Greenfreak on this one, you really should consider being just you for awhile, not half of a couple. I lived alone for the first time after my first wife and I seperated, and I am really glad I did. I really learned alot about myself.

Even though it will be 3 years from now, don't make any kind of commitment, keep talking, he may be the right one for you, but then again, you may learn a year from now that he's not, or a year from now, you may meet the man of your dreams in person. Basically, give yourself time to decide exactly what it is you want, don't assume because you are having these feelings that this is it. The feelings you described in your first post are feelings I associate with Lust, not love.

And you say you can't move away from your Mom? That is very honorable, I'm sure your Mom would miss you greatly, but I really think you have to consider your own needs first.
 
I can move to another city (I will be 45min away next year) or even across the country, or even ot the states! But not across the world.....
 
I don't know what to think of it. There is one guy completely intertwined in my life who doesn't want to be there and I'm not sure if I even want him there anymore but I am afraid. There's another guy who is willing to fly half way across the world just to meet me and see if there is anything between us. I absolutely love talking to him and making me smile and when he is sad I am sad. If there is something between us he is willing to leave his life behind and move here (when he finishs school). Whenever I think of him I just want to hold his hand and walk on the beach and spend all night just laying in his arms!
 
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