are you turned on by lesbian porn?
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Xcite said:lol, more men who spend alot of time on foreplayIn my experience there aren't too many, or maybe that's just guys round here
No offense, but you i assume you fake excitement before having sex, I don't think there are men who are assholes enough to have sex with a woman who isn't excited.
You could tell him that you need more foreplay, or perhaps give him more foreplay he will pay it back i'm sure, or at least you might get excited enough by exciting him even more
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what alot of men do not understand, luis, is that there is a difference between physical readiness, ie. wetness and mental readiness. this is where the need for foreplay comes in. to put it in a metaphor- your coffee may be hot but you need to stir the sugar before you drink it. kinda dumb, but it also true.Luis G said:
No offense, but you i assume you fake excitement before having sex, I don't think there are men who are assholes enough to have sex with a woman who isn't excited.
You could tell him that you need more foreplay, or perhaps give him more foreplay he will pay it back i'm sure, or at least you might get excited enough by exciting him even more
First of all, telling a guy (or anyone) that your not turned on enough you can bet your ass that their gonna be offended in one way or another. *Usually* a guy can get ''up and ready'' by simply looking at you naked, sometimes they expect the same reaction and when it aint happening their pride can get hurt.. very hurt resulting in huge loss of confidence. This is soo common among people, i mean if i was kissing and touching my bf up and seeing no reaction... damn! I would completely turn myself off, never mind him... it totally ruins the whole feeling. Unfortunately I havent mastered the way to tell them without hurting their feelings. So you can throw that idea away.
Alot of people (men in my case) can pressure you into sex, even if they love you (like my previous bf) Some people can get into the mood just like that, others can't.. I'm one of the 'others'. Maybe mentally i would be in the mood, but my body would have different ideas and when you aint wet, it increases the chance of sore sex with the extra friction, or just plain unenjoyable sex without the bodys desire for it. So in my case where i don't have a big sex drive i'm obviously not in the mood for sex as much as maybe my partner, so if they want it they're gonna have to get me in the mood and this can bring up another problem... are they any good down there at all? If they aren't too good you face the same problem of telling them that they're no good, and that can crush confidence!
So in the end you (well me in this instance) faces all kinds of problems with foreplay, first telling them i need more than what he's giving me, then try to guide them to the 'right' spots when he's down there without letting on i'm not enjoying myself!
Hmm, i think i've gone past the point a bit and started referring to my actual real life 'crisis' while the topic was brought up in my mind. Sorry! Although i sure would like to hear from anyone who has a similar problem to me on this
tonks, at least for me, the mental readiness is what you earn daily by loving a woman. And there should be a face to the correspondant feeling, either way if you don't feel ready you should not express that you are ready. I take higher esteem in the "expression" to know the right moment, in fact, there have been sometimes when she is mentally ready and wants it but she isn't wet enough, but that's "the opposite problem".
Xcite, I know what you mean about hurting the other, women insinuate all the time, why is it so hard to insinuate that you need a longer foreplay?, and btw, why is it with women not wanting to tell where the right spots are?, i have no problem in telling you how i like it and how it is better, the lack of communication there affects nobody but you.
Xcite, I know what you mean about hurting the other, women insinuate all the time, why is it so hard to insinuate that you need a longer foreplay?, and btw, why is it with women not wanting to tell where the right spots are?, i have no problem in telling you how i like it and how it is better, the lack of communication there affects nobody but you.