Fear of commitment?

[tank girl]

I just don't get whats the big deal with this... does anybody care to enlighten me on the matter?

WHAT is so fricking scary about getting into a commited relationship? WHY must guys avoid the question of 'commitment' and the concept of a 'relationship' like the plague?

Isn't it the ultimate demonstration of respect, integrity and responsibility?

 

[freako104]

who knows? not all guys are afraid but maybe some want to play the field some more, or they maybe scared to be hurt and not show it

 

[IDLEchild]

No, its the ultimate compromise.

A child who has been raised to be himself is now a man who has to be with someone...which means compromising a lot of "self". It's not a indentity losing experience but compromise of any kind sucks. Its the feeling of being tied down.

That is one of the reasons.

other possible reasons.

1) A lot of women have this nagging need to change anyone in their lives (you know this is true women)...especially boyfriends.

2) The word commitment itself is an overkill. Same the word "nuclear" scares people from what is a very safe method of energy.

3) A lot of times a guy may not have the intensity you do in a relationship. Sex with you is great untill it becomes apprent to him that it is sex with only you...for a long time.

4) and a very good reason: He just doesn't want to. You may be ready, he isn't.

 

[Winky]

Ya gotta love someone to commit.

 

[Luis G]

Ya gotta love someone to commit.

Yeah.

I wouldn't commit unless I was in love and sure about it. I've had gfs with whom I spent a really great time, but I would have never commited with one of them.

Give it time, he might love you but isn't sure yet, or he might not love you at all.

 

[Leslie]

[bitter]committed doesn't mean sweet fuckyally anymore[/bitter]

 

[Winky]

Damn, Les!

 

[Leslie]

 

[Winky]

Really gurl you is too young to be that bitter
isn't there a rule that ya gotta be old and dried
up to be that bitter?

Mebbe froze half to death helps? heh heh heh

 

[Leslie]

but I am old and dried up

 

[Winky]

sry 30's is still way young and until
menopause hits yer far from dry

 

[Luis G]

sry 30's is still way young and until
menopause hits yer far from dry

Talking about menopause is what I call ........ coincidence.

 

[Winky]

co
incident
with what?

bitter beer face?

 

[Leslie]

luis and i were just talking about 15 minutes ago about how I gross myself out now that I'm old and he was saying I'd feel better after menopause

 

[Winky]

So he's not been around wimen's through the
change much?

That HRT stuff might be the answer!

j/k

you are like 10 to 15 years away from the ol' ovaries
giving up the ghost, right?

 

[Leslie]

going by my mom I have about 7 years. Then I can double my ass!

 

[Winky]

Well starting from no ass is a good place?

*fumbles around for the famous Leslie ass pic*

 

[Leslie]

nonodon'tdothat!

 

[Winky]

heh heh heh

 

[Winky]

well this thread has gone off topic central

what ever will we do about TK's inability to
find a fine young man to 'commit' to her

to have and to hold
in sickness and in health
for richer for poorer
until DEATH do they finally get to part

Heck me kid’s had 3 committed relationships
And hasn’t reached the age of majority hee hee