Ya, Uki, I'm still in shock that they would be so cold and callous as to even make that kind of comment. Well, whatever, maybe they feel superior now - all I have to say is - THAT'S AWESOME AND I AM SO GLAD YOU ARE HAPPY!!!!!Well Nixy and Ink, I don't really care what you guys think of a promise ring.
What he decides he wants as an engagement ring for me is his choice. I'm far from being materialistic. I've never asked for a big ass ring. If he chooses to get me one, that's up to him. We are still dealing with two houses, getting back on our feet from being fucked over by our ex's, etc. You can think what you want about a promise ring, all I know, is that I love it, I'm happy and I don't really give a shit what you think of me or him for giving me that as a gift. Half of the girls I work with got promise rings before they got their engagement rings and so far, all my family and true friends are happy for me.
So in other words, I'm not going to let you ruin the gift for me nor spoil my enjoyment of wearing it.
Most things on the market linked to love are money-grabs... think of cut flowers (who die quickly and have to be replaced), or overpriced boxes of chocolates, Hallmark cards, or engagement rings themselves. They're all money grabs UNTIL they're bought and given to someone... then it's the thought that counts.I don't feel superior or anything like that, although if it makes people feel better to think I'm some sort of asshole just because I think the marketing of "promise rings" is a money grab by jewelry companies, then so be it.
BTW, Uki, the way you phrased your response makes it obvious that you really do "give a shit" despite your statement to the contrary.
That said ,I don't think Nixy was attacking the gift of giver/recipient .
Well that sums up an attack...she thinks they are stupid. Not confusing...not misguided...not even not something she believes in but STUPID.On the note of promise rings...this is not to offend anyone or anything it's just my thoughts on the whole thing. Thoughts I've had and thought about for a number of years...I think promise rings are stupid.
I do...Nixy may not have meant it but her tone of late has been seriously rude and holier-than-thou.
Well that sums up an attack...she thinks they are stupid. Not confusing...not misguided...not even not something she believes in but STUPID.
You can preface it with a "no offense" all you want but when you crap all over a gift that someone is excited about by calling it stupid you are attacking it.
Should she not have said it? I don't care...but let's call a duck a duck.
Oooookay.....side bar convo, eh?
How'd the kids fare?
Mine cleaned up...not the gluttonous orgy of presents that was last year but still quite a haul spread out over about a week (Christian Hanukah )
Santa brought Marlowe a Furreal chimp and a huge stuffed purple pegasus. He brought Malory a Princess Ariel pop up castle and a Tinkerbell brush, comb, mirror set and Fairy dress up costumes and Tinkerbell sheets.
And then from the various parental and grandparental units:
Books
Dress up gear
Soda pop girls (2 each)
A bunch of Littlest Petshop gear
Winx Club DVDs and mini figurines
DVDs- Cars, Fox & the Hound II, Incredibles
Coloring stuff
Puzzles
A keyboard and Guitar both battery operated and with headsets (Thanks Rob's Dad )
A Home ballet Studio thing (Like a footpad and bar and DVD)
A Nice tutu for Mally's Ballet class.
Robes
LSU Cheerleading outfits
A NY Giants cheerleading outfit
Damn....I can't remember the rest. They are well pleased though.