tonksy
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i've had my share of those so men most not have the monopoly on that.Gato_Solo said:Enough to make a man's life a series of 'insensitive episodes'.![]()

i've had my share of those so men most not have the monopoly on that.Gato_Solo said:Enough to make a man's life a series of 'insensitive episodes'.![]()
tonksy said:i've had my share of those so men most not have the monopoly on that.![]()
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maybe if you berate them and call them names on a regular basis...but if you bring up something that you consider insensitive and talk about it (which is harder but less dramatic than fighting) then hopefully things will work out. you know?Gato_Solo said:If you tell somebody often enough that they are an insensitive clod, then that's exactly what they'll turn out to be.![]()
tonksy said:maybe if you berate them and call them names on a regular basis...but if you bring up something that you consider insensitive and talk about it (which is harder but less dramatic than fighting) then hopefully things will work out. you know?
tonksy said:dude! in every relationship there are going to be some issues that you can either talk about or fight about. it's just that simple. show me a relationship that doesn't do this and i shall show you 2 people that either know nothing about the other person or are clones or something.
discussing issues in your life and relationship is hardly tantamount to beating your spouse with the wall street journal.
i never thought you were blaming me for anything. i am just bitter.Gato_Solo said:That was a hyperbole.Let's just change from the newspaper to a verbal beratement, and it's not a spouse, it's a child. That child hears this their whole childhood, grows up, moves out, and is unprepared for even the slightest disagreement. The best part is, it works both ways. I never said any different...but, interestingly enough, it sounds like you think I'm blaming you for something. I'm not. I'm just pointing out human nature, and psychology. Every adult in the world carries emotional baggage from childhood, but we don't really realize it until somebody gets a bit too close to that emotional trigger. Mine go off from time-to-time as well.
It's a self-perpetuating system. The thing is to recognize the system and try to minimize the damage.
tonksy said:i never thought you were blaming me for anything. i am just bitter.
i just felt like defending the female sex on this issue.
bittersweet, i guess?Gato_Solo said:You? Bitter? I always thought you were sweet.![]()
tonksy said:i need to try and wear more bracelets. i have a few but i got out of the habit of wearing them because of children or waitressing. rings too (although i love them), mainly i wear earrings and necklaces.
nix? have you been dropping hints?
chcr said:Hints????
Hints????
Whew, you have a limited understanding of us guys. Nixy, what you should do is grab him by the appropriate appendage and say, "Earrings, my birthday, Dec. 13th, circled in red on the calender." We ain't psychic and we don't take hints.![]()
PuterTutor said:...Gave it to her and she said "What did you get this for, you know I don't wear bracelets?"
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Gato_Solo said:...My fiancee could stand there at the jewelry department for 30 minutes, looking at one piece in particular, so I'll buy that piece for a surprise, and she'll exchange it 2 days later because 'that's not the piece she wanted'. ....
IMO anything that someone buys especially because they thought of you and wanted to give you something IS the bee's knees.BeardofPants said:Christ man, I don't do this.No matter what the BF buys me, even if I don't like it as much as something else, I would never exchange it, or query why he bought it for. That's just downright rude, IMO.
Always go with at least pretending that the gift is the bees knees.
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