scarlet
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Re: For those of you who care, and even if you don't give a rats bum ...
Where did you get that from?? you like to make a lot of assumptions don't you ?
Sorry if it appeared that that's what i was saying, Because, uh... it wasn't.
To me, that whole deal seems pointless...that was my point!!
It appears that, like you, I prefer "definately-NOT-connectionless physical", (and emotional - i might add) RELATIONSHIPS!!!.
Didn't I say;
Most people's understanding of "a one night stand" is the 'no-strings', one night impulsive "wham bam thankyou m'am" sorta thing....with no planned follow-ups, and definately no real expected association with the person. Anything else, any greater involvement would be different, and probably constitute as "friendly sex"/ "fuck-buddy" type sex,or "sexual favours" type sex, or "casual sex" - with a person more than once who you do not pursue a commited relationship...... or sex as part of something more, the committed relationship.
I prefer sex in a relationship sense. That was my point. Sex is better with a connection. When sex becomes "making love" it is far, far more enjoyable... (I can have "sex -sex" with myself. - and be so much more satisfied)
Connectionless/ meaningless 'sex' is worse than no sex at all. I see having sex with someone who can't relate to you or care for you as being a pretty, empty lonely experience.
Sex is so much more WORTHWHILE when it is with a partner who offers warmth and friendship and respect........and is there to enjoy your company in the morning.
I am relieved we can both feel similarly about that ( although, I bet you hate me sideing along the same lines as you)
I don't see how this next thing has anything to do with what we've been talking about, however, unless it was meant as an elbow in the ribs or something - but since you brought it up.....
How can you really be sure your partners haven't felt lousy about the sex you've had?
Most of the sex I have had with my partner has been fantastic.
So, I'm sure I can say the same yeah.
- But where it isn't quite, I wouldn't actually have the heart to let him know.
Hon, you've got me all wrong! I simply don't have "connection-less one-night stands " that fuck up my current relationships, thank-you. I don't have, one night stands full stop. And wouldn't have a one night stand - if it would fuck up my current relationship...a13antichrist said:
Where did you get that from?? you like to make a lot of assumptions don't you ?
Sorry if it appeared that that's what i was saying, Because, uh... it wasn't.
To me, that whole deal seems pointless...that was my point!!
It appears that, like you, I prefer "definately-NOT-connectionless physical", (and emotional - i might add) RELATIONSHIPS!!!.
Didn't I say;
You said ;
I think this all comes down to one's definition of "one night stand"
Most people's understanding of "a one night stand" is the 'no-strings', one night impulsive "wham bam thankyou m'am" sorta thing....with no planned follow-ups, and definately no real expected association with the person. Anything else, any greater involvement would be different, and probably constitute as "friendly sex"/ "fuck-buddy" type sex,or "sexual favours" type sex, or "casual sex" - with a person more than once who you do not pursue a commited relationship...... or sex as part of something more, the committed relationship.
I prefer sex in a relationship sense. That was my point. Sex is better with a connection. When sex becomes "making love" it is far, far more enjoyable... (I can have "sex -sex" with myself. - and be so much more satisfied)
Connectionless/ meaningless 'sex' is worse than no sex at all. I see having sex with someone who can't relate to you or care for you as being a pretty, empty lonely experience.
Sex is so much more WORTHWHILE when it is with a partner who offers warmth and friendship and respect........and is there to enjoy your company in the morning.
I am relieved we can both feel similarly about that ( although, I bet you hate me sideing along the same lines as you)
I don't see how this next thing has anything to do with what we've been talking about, however, unless it was meant as an elbow in the ribs or something - but since you brought it up.....
How can you really be sure your partners haven't felt lousy about the sex you've had?
Most of the sex I have had with my partner has been fantastic.
So, I'm sure I can say the same yeah.
- But where it isn't quite, I wouldn't actually have the heart to let him know.
