greenfreak
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My mother made the very generous offer to pay for Rusty and I to finally be married.
We've been together for six years, very happy, married in every sense except for having a piece of paper saying so. We've held off because we're not religious and we don't need that paper to know we want to spend the rest of our lives together. We're also lazy and would rather spend money on our first house, which we plan to do in about a year to a year and a half.
Mom is estatic, making guest lists already. I keep nagging her that I don't want to plan anything until both my parents discuss it and come to an agreement on a dollar amount. Since the guest list right now stands at about 80, it's not going to be something that breaks the bank but my parents are retired and on a budget.
So far, I know we want it to be an outdoor setting, in a garden or by water. I'd prefer a garden, myself. Rusty says there's only a few things he'd like a real hand in deciding, like the food and the photographer. Everything else I decide will probably be fine.
I don't want a diamond ring, I want an emerald. I think all of you can pretty much figure out why, it really has nothing to do with money. But it's also a perk that we aren't going to drop a few thousand on a diamond. I don't even wear rings.
I will have a green dress. Not lime green or forest green, more like a white wedding dress with a minty green hue. I've seen them when helping friends shopping for dresses, they looked pretty damn cool.
And no bridesmaids and ushers. Not a big fan of that whole thing. Instead, I want all 9 nieces and nephews to preceed us down the aisle. They range in age from 15, 14, 13, 12, 7, 5, 4, 3 and 1 so it should be pretty cute. (the infant might be a problem, but I don't want to exclude him so my oldest neice may hold him)
I would love some advice, things to watch out for, horror stories I can learn from, etc. Since my Mom helped plan four weddings already, she knows what she's doing, and she's a supreme haggler, so I'm in good hands.
By the way, Ku'u? If we can afford it, we decided we're coming to your neck of the woods for the honeymoon.
We've been together for six years, very happy, married in every sense except for having a piece of paper saying so. We've held off because we're not religious and we don't need that paper to know we want to spend the rest of our lives together. We're also lazy and would rather spend money on our first house, which we plan to do in about a year to a year and a half.
Mom is estatic, making guest lists already. I keep nagging her that I don't want to plan anything until both my parents discuss it and come to an agreement on a dollar amount. Since the guest list right now stands at about 80, it's not going to be something that breaks the bank but my parents are retired and on a budget.
So far, I know we want it to be an outdoor setting, in a garden or by water. I'd prefer a garden, myself. Rusty says there's only a few things he'd like a real hand in deciding, like the food and the photographer. Everything else I decide will probably be fine.
I don't want a diamond ring, I want an emerald. I think all of you can pretty much figure out why, it really has nothing to do with money. But it's also a perk that we aren't going to drop a few thousand on a diamond. I don't even wear rings.
I will have a green dress. Not lime green or forest green, more like a white wedding dress with a minty green hue. I've seen them when helping friends shopping for dresses, they looked pretty damn cool.
And no bridesmaids and ushers. Not a big fan of that whole thing. Instead, I want all 9 nieces and nephews to preceed us down the aisle. They range in age from 15, 14, 13, 12, 7, 5, 4, 3 and 1 so it should be pretty cute. (the infant might be a problem, but I don't want to exclude him so my oldest neice may hold him)
I would love some advice, things to watch out for, horror stories I can learn from, etc. Since my Mom helped plan four weddings already, she knows what she's doing, and she's a supreme haggler, so I'm in good hands.
By the way, Ku'u? If we can afford it, we decided we're coming to your neck of the woods for the honeymoon.
If you do come, I promise I won't be barging in on you at all hours of the day ... I'll leave you guys alone for a few hours, at least 
