MrBishop said:
Dude...when it just happens...all you can think of is *YEAH TEAM* and "I got laid'. :
Speak for yourself. When it just happens, I've gotten to know her well enough to know that we'll still be seeing each other from time to time and chatting about our current or potential partners.
Lemme let you in on a little secret.
Girls in NZ are obsessed with this idea of "being used". Dating is like sleeping with the enemy and rather than asking themselves "is he the right guy?" they ask "for how long will he be able to restrain himself from trying to use me?" One-night-stands happen when a girl gets too drunk to be bothered trying to figure out who's evil and whos not.
Guys, for their part, don't help things at all because they're so busy trying to prove their manhood to their mates by "getting laid" as many times as possible. From what I've seen of the US, this holds true for your corner of the world too.
In France, the guys are more or less the same - although a little more gentlemanly, and that they're proving their manhood to themselves, rather than to their mates.
The girls, on the other hand, couldn't care less about what the guys are thinking - if a chick likes the way a guy is hitting on her, what matters to her is whether he can show her a good time, and not whether he's gleefully smirking to himself about chalking another up for the team. One-night-stands come about because they've found each other sufficiently appealing and the girl feels like a decent shag.
Then we get to Sweden. Yeah, we all know about that, right? Bullshit.
It's not that the chicks are horny, it's that the guys have stopped all the macho bullshit and the girls are hence free to enjoy their sexuality as they please, without being labelled sluts or whores or witches.
Like I said earlier, I don't have one-night-stands because they all end up being good friends, some of which I sleep with, some I don't. But not one of them ever regretted it in the slightest, even if it wasn't all that great.
no need to get so excited for it
