acid,
chil out my man. you are young. dont put so much pressure on someone you are just getting to know or yourself, or your expectations about what may come between the two of you. now i realize this is just what works for me, so take it as that and nothing more. she is a person. she will have all kinds of weird reasons for doing all kinds of weird shit. you do it. i do it. everyone here does it. accept her for what she is. dont walk into this with all these preconceived ideas of how she should be or act. first and foremost, be her friend. now i dont mean to make things strictly plutonic so she thinks of you as the nice brother type of guy she would never get freaky with in the sack, (keep flirting and keeping things spicy) but truly be her friend. talk about what ever seems natural. if she wants space regarding certain topics, give her that space. respect her wishes. but also know that she may not be the one to give you what you want (i.e. monogamous relationship, etc.) dont let that fact sour you on the idea of getting to know a unique person (especially if she is hot) that interests you and seems to be interested in you. you may end up just friends. be aware of that. she may just want to shag and give you some great experience you may need later in life (and it will benefit some great woman in your future, women love men who know what the heck they're doing). be aware of that. she may see that you are truly her friend and she is comfortable with you and always has fun with you and she may be inclined to drop that loser and be a great girlfriend to you. be aware of that, but DONT COUNT ON IT! just one of those things about life, and especially people. you dont know whats gonna happen, but dont walk away. have the cajones to stick around and get hurt/happy whatever. in life and love, you will have happy times and YOU WILL BE DISAPPOINTED AND HURT. but, hey, if you never got hurt, you'd never know what it's like to sing the blues, and the blues are cool as shitzler. sometimes you got to just take a step back and realize this is the fun stuff that makes for a great and interesting life.
but that's just me. what the heck do i really know anyway.