Casual sex
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greenfreak
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LastLegionary said:
Hold up... You don't mean that you kiss other girls besides your girlfriend now, do you?
I had my share of men when I was younger, and one 'bed buddy'. He was an ex boyfriend of mine and it wouldn't have worked, or have been true casual sex, if we still had feelings for each other. It was convenient for a time, but I wanted something more, but not from him, so I broke it off.
Rusty and I have been committed to each other for over three years and plan to be married one day. We don't think that the act of getting married or a piece of paper saying so is going to make us any more committed than we already are. I don't plan on giving up on the great relationship we have and neither does he. I'm living with him now because I wanted to be sure that I could be with him day in and day out and be able to handle that. I can.
Jeslek
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flavio: No I am not gay, I'm quite straight. I do joke around it because they tend to hit on me. And no, I don't consider everyone that had sex before marriage a slut, but, if you are counting it and bragging about it, yes indeed. And I certainly would consider MYSELF one if I had gone ahead and slept for 10+ girls just to satisfy myself.
Greenfreak: I have no problem kissing other girls. My girlfriend doesn't have a problem with it either. She trusts me.
Greenfreak: I have no problem kissing other girls. My girlfriend doesn't have a problem with it either. She trusts me.
Jeslek
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Hm, look, if you made the vows, I might change my views. Marriage is just a public confirmation of what has already happened. Its the real closeness, sex, and then breakup that bothers me. For example: One of my friends was really really close to some man. He even proposed to her, and she accepted. That night they had sex, but the next morning he sent her an email telling her it can never work out, and that he is "sorry". She cried. And weeped. And I've talked to her. She has given him something, and he took it and ran away. I want to avoid that at all costs.flavio said:
Jeslek
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I'm not generalizing. Hm maybe a bit. But I want one woman OK? Its my opinion, my feeling, and my heart. I'm not trying to change anyone in this respect, I just asked for opinions. If it bugs you that I don't sleep around, well, get bugspray. And that goes for you too flavio.Luis G said:
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Jeslek
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I never compared girls with hookers. If you got that lead, I'm sorry, but I must have phrased it badly. My question was directed at GUYS: If you want to get laid as many times as possible, have all the cash in the world, would you consider getting hookers, or would that be too empty? I was trying to draw a parallel between empty sex (with a hooker, no emotions really) and meaningful sex (with a loving, compassionate partner).Luis G said:
Jeslek
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OK, hm, time for another explanation of sorts. Mind you, this is an opinion.
I believe everytime you go to bed with someone, you lose a little piece of yourself to that person. It may sounds silly, but you will remember that occasion, will you not? And so will she, right? Next time you have sex, you will be drawing comparisons. That is automatic. The next time, having remembered the past two times, you will be comparing even more. Maybe not during sex, but certainly after sex, am I right? (At least that is what I've understood talking to guys here)
When I intend to commit forever, I will be able to give myself in whole to my wife. I would have her expect no less from me. I would not necessarily expect that from her, but it would be a very, very nice gift if she is a virgin. Its the greatest gift I can give my wife, myself. I don't intend to share myself with other girls so I can have physical pleasure. I will never forgive myself, I would lose part of myself, and I would lose respect for myself. Sounds silly right? Well, thats my opinion, the way I see it, and the way I disciplined myself. Yes it is getting very, very hard to maintain that. But everytime I think of it, I see physical satisfaction versus the greatest gift to my wife ever.
I posted the poll here to see what the majority views are, and what exactly your opinions are. I did not mean to judge, critisize, compare, or call anyone names. If I did, I'm sorry. I stated my opinion, you stated yours, and I will respect yours.
Now have a nice night.
I believe everytime you go to bed with someone, you lose a little piece of yourself to that person. It may sounds silly, but you will remember that occasion, will you not? And so will she, right? Next time you have sex, you will be drawing comparisons. That is automatic. The next time, having remembered the past two times, you will be comparing even more. Maybe not during sex, but certainly after sex, am I right? (At least that is what I've understood talking to guys here)
When I intend to commit forever, I will be able to give myself in whole to my wife. I would have her expect no less from me. I would not necessarily expect that from her, but it would be a very, very nice gift if she is a virgin. Its the greatest gift I can give my wife, myself. I don't intend to share myself with other girls so I can have physical pleasure. I will never forgive myself, I would lose part of myself, and I would lose respect for myself. Sounds silly right? Well, thats my opinion, the way I see it, and the way I disciplined myself. Yes it is getting very, very hard to maintain that.
But everytime I think of it, I see physical satisfaction versus the greatest gift to my wife ever.I posted the poll here to see what the majority views are, and what exactly your opinions are. I did not mean to judge, critisize, compare, or call anyone names. If I did, I'm sorry. I stated my opinion, you stated yours, and I will respect yours.
Now have a nice night.
i know the comparasion thing, however, there's a difference between having sex and making love.
From what i've heard, if you actually make love you will not care about if he/she is good while doing it (but is a bonus if he/she does), what matters are the feelings and the sharing of that moment. I assume you will marry a girl you love and she loves you back, that's what matters in the end.
From what i've heard, if you actually make love you will not care about if he/she is good while doing it (but is a bonus if he/she does), what matters are the feelings and the sharing of that moment. I assume you will marry a girl you love and she loves you back, that's what matters in the end.
