US Dating scene...
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AlladinSane
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* pictures Gato clubbing his woman and dragging her to cave with big grin in his face *
* dies of laughing *
* dies of laughing *
AlladinSane
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Excuse me, I've got some dust in my eye...Ardsgaine said:
dan
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Jerrek said:
how can you know if it makes it more or less special?
imagine the situation, for instance the one i'm in now... i'm single, and have in the past had sexual relations with at least one person. does that mean that it's now impossible for me to have something "special" with someone because they're not my first?
i mean... please...
i think it takes a while before you know what you want. like ice cream, if all you've ever tasted is vanilla you'll probably be perfectly happy with it... but try chocolate and you'd be even happier. of course it might be that the first flavour you tried was the best one... but then again...
personally, after having tried a few flavours i now know i like a bit of the mint, some chocolate chips and perhaps a small amount of pistachio... when i find *that* girl i'll be well happy...
Ardsgaine
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nambit said:
He's talking out his ass. How the fuck would he know what's possible in that department?
Jerrek, before you say anything, yes, I know you're stating your personal preference. You're using language that conveys a moral judgment, though. If you want to make the claim that it's morally wrong, then go ahead. Give us an argument for it. If you're just stating a personal preference then do us the favor of acknowledging that, having never had sex, you really don't have a clue how many times someone would have to "sleep around" before it stopped being special, or before he became too jaded to love anymore.
Related question: How many times do you have to kiss a guy on the mouth before it loses its 'specialness'?
Jeslek
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Yep you could say I have moral issues with it. My conscience will kill me for one thing.... I just don't fuck around for fun.
Related question: If you could lose your virginity again, would it be a different person (this does not necessarily mean you wouldn't want sex with that person at some point, all I'm asking is if you would prefer to have lost it to a different person)? Be honest
Related question: If you could lose your virginity again, would it be a different person (this does not necessarily mean you wouldn't want sex with that person at some point, all I'm asking is if you would prefer to have lost it to a different person)? Be honest
hmmmm, even though I have not slept with the guy I am seeing. When I do would I prefer if I was loosing my virginity to him rather than having already lost it....NO
I have no regrets about my past sexual endevours. I am happy with what I have done in the past. It has made me who I am today and without it I might not be with the guy I am with now (well, almost deifnately, I met him through my ex).
Everything happens for a reason.
I have no regrets about my past sexual endevours. I am happy with what I have done in the past. It has made me who I am today and without it I might not be with the guy I am with now (well, almost deifnately, I met him through my ex).
Everything happens for a reason.
Ardsgaine
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Hell, I wish that I had fallen in love with Jan in Kindergarten and loved her ever since... that's not the way it worked out, though.
I'll even go you one better. I can think of half a dozen girls from my past that I would rather have lost my virginity to than the one who got it.
I was an idiot though. I had these twisted notions about saving myself for just the 'right' girl, and I kept passing up perfectly nice girls who really liked me because I wasn't positively absolutely that they were the ones I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
And then one night the last girl in the world I would've ever wanted to marry tripped me and beat me to the floor. Imperfect as she was, she will always occupy a special place in my memory, because she got that damned 'first time' jinx off my back. After that I didn't have to worry about whether the girl would be someone I could spend the rest of my life with... that's an impossible thing to know anyway.
Keep waiting for that bolt of lightning that's going to tell you you've met the perfect girl, Jerrek, and hold on tightly to your virginity. Maybe when you're fifty and you've been divorced a couple of times we can ask you whether it was worth it.
I'll even go you one better. I can think of half a dozen girls from my past that I would rather have lost my virginity to than the one who got it.
I was an idiot though. I had these twisted notions about saving myself for just the 'right' girl, and I kept passing up perfectly nice girls who really liked me because I wasn't positively absolutely that they were the ones I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.
And then one night the last girl in the world I would've ever wanted to marry tripped me and beat me to the floor. Imperfect as she was, she will always occupy a special place in my memory, because she got that damned 'first time' jinx off my back. After that I didn't have to worry about whether the girl would be someone I could spend the rest of my life with... that's an impossible thing to know anyway.
Keep waiting for that bolt of lightning that's going to tell you you've met the perfect girl, Jerrek, and hold on tightly to your virginity. Maybe when you're fifty and you've been divorced a couple of times we can ask you whether it was worth it.
Ardsgaine
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You really don't fucking read what I write do you?? You just twist it to say something that you can argue with.
What I'm saying is that you're a fool if you think you can KNOW that ANY girl is going to be the girl that you can spend the rest of your life with. You can probably know which ones are definitely NOT the one, but the maybes are a lot harder to sort through. While you're waiting for omniscience you're passing up potential RELATIONSHIPS that could actually lead to something very good. And even if they don't last you your entire life, they can still be special.
Please read that carefully at least six times before you respond.
What I'm saying is that you're a fool if you think you can KNOW that ANY girl is going to be the girl that you can spend the rest of your life with. You can probably know which ones are definitely NOT the one, but the maybes are a lot harder to sort through. While you're waiting for omniscience you're passing up potential RELATIONSHIPS that could actually lead to something very good. And even if they don't last you your entire life, they can still be special.
Please read that carefully at least six times before you respond.